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Think like a wise man, but speak like an ordinary man.

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People fail not because they have no faith, but because they cannot turn faith into action and stick to it.

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To be successful, you must have the following conditions: use your desire to increase your enthusiasm, use your perseverance to flatten mountains, and at the same time believe that you will succeed.

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The process of spiritual maturity is a continuous process of self-discovery and self-exploration. Unless we understand ourselves first, it is difficult for us to understand others.

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You are young if you have faith, old if you doubt; you are young if you have confidence, old if you are afraid; you are young if you have hope, old if you despair; time wrinkles your skin, but losing enthusiasm wrinkles your soul.

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The saddest person in the world is the one who has no merits to show off, but tries to cover up his pitiful inferiority complex with disgusting arrogance and boasting.

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If you are unhappy, the only way to become happy is to sit up straight and act and talk like you are happy. --- It is impossible to remain depressed psychologically if your actions radiate happiness. This little basic truth can do wonders in our lives.

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Lincoln said: "A man who wants to achieve great things should not be always calculating with others and waste his time arguing with others. Pointless arguments not only damage his temperament, but also make him lose his self-control. Whenever possible, be more humble to others. Rather than competing with a dog for the road, it is better to let the dog go first. If you are bitten by a dog, even if you kill the dog, it will not heal your wound."

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Where your interest lies, that's where your ability lies.

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Most fears arise from ignorance and uncertainty.

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One of the characteristics of human beings is that they will not accept criticism from others, always think that they are always right, and like to find all kinds of excuses to justify themselves.

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The most important thing is not whether others love us, but whether we are worthy of being loved.

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No matter how miserable tomorrow will be, at least today has not been wasted.

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Try to get close to people who understand you, trust you and encourage you. This will have a great impact on your future success.

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Many people fail to become good communicators, mainly because they only talk about things that interest them, which are boring to others.

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The most painful thing is not the tears of failure,

But the regret of not trying hard,

Don't let tomorrow's you,

I hate myself now.

Time is fair.

Everyone has 24 hours in a day.

The difference is just cherishing.

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If you are criticized, please remember that it is because criticizing you will give him a sense of importance, and it also shows that you are successful and noticeable. Many people get satisfaction by criticizing people who are more successful than themselves.

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Either endure, be cruel, or get out.

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Treat others the way you want others to treat you.

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If you admit your mistakes before others blame you, and you have said what the other person wanted to say, and he has nothing to say, then you have a 99% chance of gaining his forgiveness.

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The way to develop self-confidence is to do what you are afraid of and get a record of successful experience.

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If you disagree with someone's opinion, you may want to stop him, but it's better not to do so. It will not work. If you want to make enemies, make them stronger than your friends; but if you want to make friends, make your friends stronger than you. The Germans have a saying: "The purest joy is the joy we get from other people's difficulties." Yes, some friends may get more satisfaction from your difficulties than from your victories. So don't always exaggerate your achievements to others. We should be humble, so that we can always be liked by others. We should be humble because you and I are nothing great...

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Willie James: "The deepest element in human nature is the desire to be valued by other people."

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For those immature people, they can always find some excuses to cover up some of their own shortcomings or misfortunes.

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What you think you are is not who you really are. Instead, you become what you think.

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Gratitude is a product of great education, you can't get it from ordinary people. Forgetting or not being able to thank is human nature.

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In the complicated modern society, only those who can keep inner peace will not become crazy. Those who do not know how to resist worry will shorten their life span. Nothing can make a woman age faster and destroy her appearance than worry. What makes you most relaxed and happy is a sound faith, sleep, music and laughter. - Have confidence in the future - Be able to sleep well - Look at life from the funny side. Health and happiness are yours.

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The current efforts are in exchange for going further.

See what others can’t see.

The reason why we work so hard now is to make sure that when we are old,

You don't have to run around all the time.

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People who develop the ability to listen quietly seem to be rarer than people of any other good character.

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The only way to influence others in the world is to talk about what they want and tell them how to get what they want.

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Life has its ups and downs, but you can never lose your mood.

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Being kind to others is not a responsibility, it is a pleasure, because it can improve your health and happiness. When you are kind to others, you are also kind to yourself.

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The saddest thing about human nature is that we all procrastinate on living, dreaming of a magical rose garden in the sky instead of enjoying the roses blooming outside our window today.

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"Let us remember that the people we live with are not absolutely rational animals, but are full of emotional changes, prejudices, conceit and vanity." No matter how much you admire someone, he has such things, it's just obvious or not.

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A person's vision determines his height.

A person's mind determines his breadth.

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The first step towards maturity is to take responsibility. We live in this world and face many responsibilities in life. For those immature people, they can always find some reasons to get rid of some of their own shortcomings or misfortunes. It is important to make people's lives better, rather than indulge in the abyss of self-pity. You must bear the consequences of your actions and be responsible for your actions, instead of just kicking the chair!

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Save the face of others! What an important question! But we seldom consider this question. Even if others make mistakes and we are right, if we do not save the face for others, it will ruin a person.

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The best way to impress someone is to talk to him about the things that are most precious to him.

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Many lonely people are like this because they don't understand that love and friendship are not gifts that fall from the sky. If a person wants to be welcomed or accepted by others, he must pay a lot of effort and cost. If we want others to like us, we must pay a lot of effort and cost.

It does take some effort. Love, friendship or happy times are not something that can be stipulated by a contract. Let's face it. Whether the husband dies or the wife passes away, the living have the right to live happily again.

But they must understand that happiness does not come from others but from winning the needs and love of others.

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No matter what, stay true to yourself and be unique.

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Many troubles in life come from the fact that we blindly compare ourselves with others and forget to enjoy our own lives.

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As long as you believe that you are doing the right thing, don't worry about what others say.

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Life is like walking, it is hard and beautiful all the way. Wherever you look, it is your life realm. If you always see people who are better than you, it means you are on the rise; if you always see people who are not as good as you, it means you are on the decline. Instead of complaining, it is better to think about change.

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Our fatigue is usually not due to the work itself, but to worry, tension and unhappiness.

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True wisdom is knowing how to restrain your own light.

Avoid stabbing others and making enemies;

It's not about telling others how smart you are.

Instead, wisdom and confidence bloom inadvertently.

If you can control yourself, you can control your life.

So take it slow, low-key and elegant.

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If a person must prove himself through external evaluation, it only means that his heart is not strong enough. Only when he no longer needs to rely on the judgment of the outside world and can prove himself, his heart is truly strong. Only a person with a strong heart can be truly fearless. Only with a strong heart can we be calm in life, not be surprised by praise or criticism, and no matter how many temptations and setbacks there are in the outside world, we will not be distracted and still stick to the firmness in our hearts. Women especially need to be strong in their hearts.

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It isn't what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.

What makes you happy or unhappy is not what you have, who you are, where you are or what you are doing, but what you think about it.

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The reason why people suffer is that they pursue the wrong things and regard simple things as complicated and serious; the reason why people are depressed is that their hearts are filled with many impurities, and not only do they not clean them out, but they keep filling up, making it hard to breathe; the reason why people are dull is that they cannot hear the voices of others and always think they are the smartest people in the world.

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不要评议人,免得为人所评议。

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憎恨伤不了对方一根寒毛,却把自己的日子弄成了炼狱。

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莎士比亚曾说:"事无善恶,思想使然。"

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能接受既成事实,这是克服随之而来的任何不幸的第一步。 能接受最坏的情况,就能在心理上让你发挥出新的能力。 忧虑最大的坏处就是摧毁我们集中精神的能力,一旦忧虑产生,我们的思想就会到处乱转,从而丧失做出决定的能力。 如果你有担忧的问题,做到下面三件事: 1。问你自己:可能发生的最坏的情况是什么? 2。如果你必须接受的话,就准备接受它。 3。然后镇定地想办法改善最坏的情况。

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爱一个人最好的方式,

是经营好自己;

爱人要有度,留一点自我,

才会有自尊,你的付出才会有人重视。

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我所学到的最大经验是,我们的思想最重要。如果我能了解你的思想,就能了解你这个人,因为你的思想造就了你这个人,通过改变自己的思想,我们就能改变自己的一生。

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今天太宝贵,不应该为酸苦的忧虑和辛涩的悔恨所消蚀。把下巴抬高,使思想焕发出光彩,像春阳下跳跃的山泉。抓住今天,它不再回来。

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如果你希望做好,你就会做好。

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好的爱人,风雨兼程,一生陪伴。

我爱你不是因为你是谁,

而是因为与你在一起我更像我自己。

爱人是懂得你想要的和你的梦想,

喜欢在她面前那个真实的你,

并且你们通过努力最大程度地彼此成就。

好的爱人是让你感到自由和放松的,

当我越自在,我们越亲密。

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人生没有绝对的公平,却又是相对公平的。在一个天平上,你得到的越多,也必须比别人承受的更多。

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经济独立的女性,

自身带着创造幸福的能力,

她们不需要取悦和依赖男人。

婚姻对于她们来说,

只是锦上添花而已。

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心理学家弗洛伊德博士说:"凡你我所做的事都起源于两种动机,性的冲动和能成为伟人的欲望。"

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如果你被人批评,那是因为批评你能给他一种满足感。这也说明你是有成就的,而且引人注意。 小人常为伟人的缺点或过失而得意。 不合理的批评往往是一种掩饰了的赞美。

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扩大交际范围 培养自己的好奇心:不感兴趣的也要去,不管男性和女性都要兴致勃勃地活动。只有这样才能让人感受你的魅力,并让人感受快乐的气氛。 不要让性格差异成为障碍:社交与选择朋友不完全是一回事。在社交过程中,不要用选择朋友甚至是知心朋友的条件来作标准,凡是志趣不符、性格不合的人一概拒之门外。在社交圈中认识的新朋友应是与你有较大差别的人才好。

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“不甘平庸,崇尚奋斗” 生命的价值是需要用努力奋斗来实现的,从踏入这个世界开始我们就被赋予了一种无形的责任,或轻或重,演绎了不同的人生。 每一个人都有属于自己的生命轨迹,我们在一旁观看,观看他人的欢喜或忧愁。一辈子就那么长,我们不能沉浸在他人的缤纷的舞台上,我们还有自己的舞台需要用心去演绎。“自强不息,厚德载物”,我崇尚这种宏广的精神境界。

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找准属于自己的道路,

踏踏实实干适合自己的事,

充分发挥自己的优势,

无论别人如何对你,

都不要看轻自己。

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用争夺的方法,你永远无法得到满足,可是当你谦让的时候,你可以得到比你所期望的更多。

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大多数的疲劳现象来源于精神或情绪状态

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心理学家斯金纳实验证明:"我们采取批评的方法并不能让别人产生永久性的改变,相反,只会引起嫉恨"

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有两个人从铁窗朝外望去,一个人看到的是满地的泥泞,另一个却看到满天的繁星。 真正的快乐不见得是愉悦的,它多半是一种胜利。 人生最重要的不是以你的所得投资,任何人都可以这样做。真正重要的是如何从损失中获利。这才需要智慧,才能显示出人的上智下愚。 人具有一种反败为胜的力量。 尼采:优秀杰出的人不仅能忍人所不能忍,并且乐于进行这种挑战。 我们最大的弱点,也许会给我们提供一种出乎意料的助力。

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“不能生气的人是傻瓜,而不去生气的人才是智者。”

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成熟的人会适度地忍耐自己,正如他适度地忍耐别人一样。他不会因自己的一些弱点而感到活得很痛苦。 不喜欢自己的人,表现在外的症状之一便是过度自我挑剔。 独处对我们的心灵运动十分有益,就好像新鲜空气对我们的身体极有帮助一样。 适当程度的自爱对每一个正常人来说,都是健康的表现。

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概念极为简单,不幸的是,执行起来却很复杂、很困难。

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一件事,若能被思考,必能被思考的很清楚.

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生活,有时候就是这样,

难免充满各种惊喜、惊吓和无奈,

可是只要你不放弃它,它就不会放弃你。

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美丽的外表只能创造初次接触的机会,

人格魅力才能经得住时间的考验,

渗出沁人的芬芳。

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人与人的交往中,

你把对方看成一朵花,

你就会感到快乐;

而你如果把对方看成仙人掌,

你就会感到痛苦。

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你所认为的,并非真正的你;反倒是你怎么想,你就是什么样的人。 行动似乎跟着感觉走,其实行动与感觉是并行的,如果意志控制行动,也就能间接控制感觉。 只要将一个人内心的态度由恐惧转为奋斗,就能克服任何障碍。 你认为我宣扬的是天真的乐观主义吗?不,人生还不至于那么单纯。我倒是真的想提倡以积极的态度代替消极的态度。换句话说,我们应该关心自己的问题,而非担忧。

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如果你想得到仇人,你就胜过你的朋友,如果你想获得更多的朋友,就让你的朋友胜过你。

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成败不在于大小,只在于你是否已竭尽所能。

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我没有时间争吵,也没有时间后悔,没人能强迫我恨他们.我想到的是那些给我帮助的,善良的人们我将无以回报!

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我们都不想听人说教,没有谁会喜欢这样。请记住,一定要让我们感到愉快和有趣,不然,你说什么我们都不会注意。同时也请记住,世上最有趣的事情之一,莫过于精炼雅致、妙语生辉的名人轶事。所以,请告诉我们你所认识的两个人的故事,告诉我们为何其中一个会成功,而另一个人却失败了。我们会很高兴去听。同时请记得,我们或者还能因为此例而获益匪浅。

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只谈论自己的人,永远只会在自己的立场考虑问题。

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让自己更平和一点,更豁达一点,更宽容一点。人人都有他的难处,何必强求与人?

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我们必须信仰某些事物。但是,假如我们没有就此信仰去采取行动,一切仍然无用。只有信心而没有作为,是无济于事的。 人不是因为没有信心而跌倒,而是因为不能把信念化成行动,并且不顾一切地坚持到底。 当然,仅有信仰并不足以使我们成熟。信仰的好处是能增强勇气,使我们在接受考验的时候,不至于临阵退却。除非我们以信仰做基础,然后付诸行动,否则任何道理原则都没有什么用处。 只有行为才算数。

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具有成熟心灵的人不会陷于自己的困难当中,而是勇敢的去面对它、接受它,然后想办法加以克服、解决。

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幸福就是找一个能够温暖你心的人慢慢的过一辈子,珍惜爱你的人,珍惜你爱的人,珍惜那个一直在你身边陪著你、保护你、温暖你一直把你当成全世界。

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永远按照对方的观点去想,从他人的立场去看待事情,这或许会成为影响你终生事业的一个关键因素。

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对别人的恭维,不过是婉转地表达对自己的赞美。

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巴德勒博士说:"只为自己着想的人是无药可救的,也是不会受到教育的,他们是没有教养的人,无论他受过什么样的教育。"

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要使别人喜欢你,首先你得改变对人的态度,把精神放得轻松一点,表情自然,笑容可掬,这样别人就会对你产生喜爱的感觉了。

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伟人之所以伟大,就是看他如何对待一个卑微的人。

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爱不是谁要去讨好谁,

而是有一个人喜欢真实的你,

你只需要做好你自己就好了。

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学会控制自己的一切,只有活在一个"完全独立的今天"

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一个不注意小事情的人,永远不会成功大事业。

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能够把心中的烦闷向知心朋友倾吐的人,通常既是能够把握快乐,减少疲劳,精力充沛的人。

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In the chaos of modern cities, only those who can maintain inner peace will not become crazy.

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Only stupid people criticize, blame and complain about others, but if you want to forgive and understand others, you need to work on your character and self-control.

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From the day you came into this world, every action you take is for yourself and because you need something.

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It is human nature to forget to be grateful. If we always expect others to be grateful, we are mostly asking for trouble. We complain every day that others will not be grateful. Who should we blame? This is human nature. They long to be loved, but the only way to truly receive love in this world is not to ask for it. On the contrary, they have to give without asking for anything in return. The joy of giving without asking for anything in return is the greatest joy they get. The only way to seek happiness is not to expect others to be grateful. Giving is a kind of joy of enjoying giving.

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It is an undeniable fact that everyone you meet feels that they are better than you in some way. Subtly acknowledging the importance of the other person and expressing it sincerely will earn you his friendship.

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The beauty of life,

It is because your courage will make you a more beautiful person.

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我们多数人的毛病是,当机会朝我们冲奔而来时,我们犹兀自闭着眼睛;很少人能够去追寻自己的机会,或甚至在绊倒时,还能看得见它。

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"Yes, that's harsh words. But remember, no one ever kicks a dead dog."

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What hurts a person is not the event itself, but his perception of the event.

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The best doctor in the world is eating in moderation and keeping a peaceful and cheerful mood. There are two main goals in life. First, to have what you desire; second, to enjoy it. Only a wise man can do the second point. Think of the blessings you have from God, and you will no longer have worries. Schopenhauer: We rarely think about what we have, but always think about what we don’t have. This tendency is really one of the most unfortunate things in the world. The disasters it brings are probably greater than all the war diseases. It is a treasure that can see the best side of everything and develop a habit.

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If there is a secret to success, it is to understand the position of others and to be able to take both your own and others' positions into account.

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Happy love is built on a solid material foundation.

Only when you are good enough will a good man love you.

The best way to love someone is to manage yourself well.

Give each other a high-quality lover.

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Browning said: "When a person has the spirit of starting with himself and conquering himself, he is an extraordinary person."

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Choose your favorite friends.

Be honest and you will be happy because you are loved;

Choose the lifestyle you like.

Follow your own rhythm, and you will live calmly and authentically;

Choose the lover you truly love.

Being with him, you can live a prosperous life even in ordinary days.

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Men do not die from overwork, but from waste and worry.

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The secret of success is: "I don't say bad things about anyone! Instead, I say good things about everyone I know!" Just like what the Youth League Committee teacher said last time, when people can't see you, you should talk about your strengths, not your weaknesses. It's human nature not to say bad things in front of people, but it's also valuable not to say bad things behind their backs. Remember this! Many mentally ill people have found a sense of self-esteem that they can't get in the real world in their madness. Generally speaking, mentally ill people seem to be happier than you and me. Since many people are happy with madness, why don't they do this? They have solved their problems...

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In everyone's growth process,

You will see different scenery.

Experience different kinds of joy, anger, sorrow, love, hate and emotions.

That's life.

No matter what you go through,

Please always maintain a pious, bright and tolerant heart.

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For those who like to avoid responsibility, difficulties become the best shield. If everyone thinks that the environment is bad all day long, they will naturally blame their mistakes on "defects" or various other reasons. People with mature minds will not get stuck in their own difficulties, but will bravely face them, accept them, and then find ways to overcome and solve them. They will not beg for mercy, despair, or find excuses to escape. Immature people can always regard their uniqueness as defects and obstacles, and then expect to be treated specially.

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If you are passionate about something, you will succeed.

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Be a good listener and encourage others to talk about themselves! " I am not a rude person who interrupts others casually, but I am not good enough at listening to others! When I was a child, I was an extremely introverted person. I didn't dare to speak in front of others. When I had to speak, I blushed and stammered. But I had the habit of reading, and I realized that I had to overcome my character defects and change myself. After some efforts, I gradually became bolder.

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Ordinary people often get angry when others criticize them, but wise people try to learn from them. Instead of waiting for enemies to attack us or our work, we should do it ourselves. The enemy's view of us may be closer to the truth than our own. Everyone is not smart enough for at least 5 minutes a day, and wisdom also feels powerless. Do you think you can only learn from people who like you, admire you, and agree with you? Can't you learn more from those who oppose you and criticize you? The enemy's view of us may be closer to the truth than our own.

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Mediocre people get their greatest pleasure from the mistakes and follies of great men.

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Love is mutual fulfillment.

Love is you facing the southern hemisphere,

I face the northern hemisphere.

We share our experiences with each other.

Two people together make a world.

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Usually, when people speak gentle words, their actions will naturally reflect a gentle attitude, and the power of a peaceful heart will be born.

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If we inspire the people we come into contact with and make them aware of their own hidden power, we shall not only change their will but also their destiny.

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The only way to success is to think carefully. There is no shortcut.

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You will never get into trouble by admitting you are wrong. Only in this way can you calm down the argument and lead the other party to be as fair and generous as you are, and even admit that he may be wrong. Don't confront customers, spouses, or enemies. Don't accuse them of their mistakes, don't make them angry, and if you must confront people, use some skills. When you teach people, act as if nothing happened. Things should be brought up unconsciously, as if they were forgotten.

---122---

People have only one life, so all the good and kindness that can be contributed should be done now. Don't delay or be negligent, because you only live once.

---123---

To express oneself is the most important need of human nature.

---124---

People's inner sense of happiness comes from being content with what they have and being grateful and satisfied with their existing life conditions.

---125---

Resting does not mean doing nothing. In fact, rest is a way to compensate for certain losses in the body.

---126---

When dealing with people, we should remember that we are not dealing with people who are dealing with theories, but people who are dealing with people who are dealing with emotions.

---127---

We feel tired because our emotions put stress on our bodies.

---128---

If you want to be a good conversationalist, start by being a good listener.

---129---

Tomorrow you want to persuade someone to do something. Before you open your mouth, you might as well ask yourself: How can I make him do this?

---130---

The most critical person, the fiercest critic, often softens in front of a patient, sympathetic listener.

---131---

Don't look to the distant future, our most urgent task is to deal with the things in front of us.

---132---

Whether a person's career is successful or not depends entirely on whether he is interested in this career, not on whether he opens the door to success through hard work.

---133---

Happiness does not depend on external factors, but on your inner state.

---134---

Remembering people's names and calling them out easily is a subtle and effective way to give them a compliment.

---135---

For a full ten years I was a prisoner. Not in a regular prison, but in a prison where anxiety about one's own poor walls and fear of criticism were the cells.

---136---

Happiness is contagious, and only by making others happy can you make yourself happy.

---137---

Criticism does not bring change, but resentment.

---138---

If people are dissatisfied and have a bad impression of you, it will be difficult to convince them even if you use all your Christian theories. Think of those blaming parents, overbearing bosses, and nagging wives. We should all realize that people's minds are not easy to change. You can't force them to agree with you, but you can definitely guide them as long as you are gentle and kind. If you want to win people's hearts, you must first make them believe that you are the most sincere friend. A drop of honey attracts more flies than a gallon of bile. A gentle, friendly and appreciative attitude is also more likely to teach people to change their minds, which is difficult to achieve with roaring and fierce attacks...

---139---

Many lonely people are like this because they don't understand that love and friendship are not gifts that fall from the sky. If a person wants to be welcomed or accepted by others, he must pay a lot of efforts and costs. If we want to overcome loneliness, we must stay away from the shadow of self-pity and bravely walk into the crowd full of light. We must get to know people and make new friends. Happiness does not depend on others to give it, but on winning the needs and love of others for you.

---140---

Actions are generated by our basic desires.

---141---

人们真正关心的只有自己,这一点永远不会变,无论今天还是明天,无论现在还是未来。

---142---

我们虽然是平常的人,但不代表我们就该承受折磨。我们唯一能做的是正视生活本身,在经历中不断学习,以确保未来不会发生憾事。

---143---

朋友应该是在一起相互慰藉、激励,

彼此能最大程度地实现自我,

真心为对方的成功感到欣慰的人。

应该是让你看到更宽广的世界和不一样的风景,人生活得更精彩的那样一群人。

---144---

1.问问自己,可能发生的最糟糕的结果是什么。

2.如果别无选择,那你就接受它。

3.然后冷静面对,设法改善最坏的结果

---145---

如果你对某项结果足够关注,你自然一定会达到。

---146---

要显示一个伟大人物的伟大之处,那就要看他如何对待一个卑微的人。

---147---

找医生看病的病人中有70%只要能够消除他们的恐惧和忧虑,病自然会好起来。

---148---

与人相处时,我们面对的不是绝对的理性动物,而是充满了情绪变化、满腹成见、受自负和虚荣驱使的生物。

---149---

集中所有的智慧,所有的热诚,把今天的工作做得尽善尽美,这就是你迎接未来的最好方法。

---150---

从希望别人所给我的,而去给别人。

---151---

如果我们是那样的卑贱和自私,一旦没有从他人身上得到好处,就不愿意让别人感到快乐,假如我们的气量比一个酸苹果还要小,那我们所要遭遇到的绝对是失败,而且我们的心灵将会变得无比贫瘠。

---152---

要想成为真正的“人”,必须先是个不盲从因袭的人。你心灵的完整性是不可侵犯的。 年轻人或涉世未深的人,常常会害怕自己与众不同,无论是穿着、行动、言谈或思考模式,都尽量与自己所属的圈子认同。 当我们身处不熟悉的环境,又没有过往的经验可以参考的时候,最好的方法便是顺应一般人的标准——直到我们自己的经验和信心足以给我们力量,然后才能照着自己的信念和标准去做。 时间会让我们归结出一套属于自己的价值体系...

---153---

获得心理平和的方法是改变人的想法,你应努力培养舒畅自然的心态。

---154---

世界上的每一个人,不管是富人、穷人、乞丐、盗贼,每个人都愿意竭尽其所能,保全别人给他的好名声。

---155---

如果你“假装”对工作感兴趣,这种态度往往会使你的兴趣弄假成真。这种态度还能减少疲劳、紧张和忧虑。 除了身体的运动,我们更需要的是精神、心智上的运动,以便促使我们付诸行动。 每天时时跟自己交谈,可以引导自己思考什么是勇气和幸福,什么是平安和力量;每天跟自己谈些需要感谢的事,这样,你的心灵就会海阔天空,快乐欢畅。 去假装,或者怎样。从中体会到其中的趣味才是关键。

---156---

赢得争论的方法只有一个,那就是避免争论。

---157---

关上过去和未来的大门,生活在完全独立的今天。

---158---

一个人最糟的是不能做自己,并且在身体和心灵中保持自我。

---159---

一个理智、达观的人会渐渐地懂得,对生活不要期望太高。

---160---

忘恩负义乃是人的天性,如果你非要期望别人感恩,那多半是庸人自扰。

---161---

比自身生命更高贵的奉献精神,会带来真正的成功与快乐,会带来更多朋友 .

---162---

“有远大志向的人不会把时间浪费在无益的争执上,”林肯说道,“因为意气用事毫无意义。你的私事再大也大不过天,所以在个人问题上要懂得让步。有狗拦路的时候,最好给它让道,而不要为了争路被它反咬一口;若是被咬了,即使杀了它,你的伤口也不会马上愈合。”

---163---

最重要的是交朋友的能力,说到其本质,其实也就是欣赏别人优点的能力

---164---

工作,将影响你的一生;它可能造就你,也可能毁灭你。

---165---

和人打交道时,请牢记这一点--人并非理性生物。他们由情感驱使,被偏见支配,傲慢与虚荣是他们的动力之源

---166---

如果人人都如此自私阴暗,付出一点小小的善意和一句真诚的称赞都索求回报;如果我们的灵魂渺小如尘沙,那么失败是注定应得的惩罚。

---167---

要想摆脱不幸的阴影,最好的一种方法便是提升我们自己去帮助别人。 不幸遭遇并非就是世界末日。有时候,它还是促使我们采取行动的催化剂,对改善状况大有必要。 生命并不是一帆风顺的幸福之旅,而是时时摆动在幸与不幸、沉与浮、光明与黑暗之间的模式里。我们不能像鸵鸟一样把头埋在沙堆里面,拒绝面对各种困难,而麻烦也不会因此获得解决。苦难是人类生活的一部分,只有实实在在地去面对,才是成熟的表现。

---168---

每个人在内心深处都渴望被重视。

---169---

如果你拥有某种权力,那不算什么;如果你拥有一颗富于同情的心,那你就会获得许多权力所无法获得的人心。

---170---

对别人好不是一种责任,它是一种享受,因为它能增进你的健康与快乐,你对别人好的时候,也就是对自己最好的时候。 一个人想得到人生快乐,就不能只想到自己,而应为他人着想,因为快乐来自于你为别人,别人为你。

---171---

在追求个人价值的时候不要过于苛刻,面对名利地位的诱惑要做到无动于衷,不为丘壑难平而癫狂,不为遭遇挫折而沮丧,不为壮志难酬而悲伤。

---172---

不要因你的仇人而燃起一把怒火,最终却烧伤了你自己。

---173---

批评是无用的,它激起抵触,让人急于辩白;批评是危险的,它伤害自尊,甚至让人萌生恨意。

---174---

行动胜于言论,而人们脸上的微笑,就有这样的表示"我喜欢你,你让我感到开心,我非常高兴见到你"

---175---

每个人的生活遭遇都是独一无二的。尽管构成人体的基本因素相同,但我们每个人的生命都很奇妙地自成一格,绝不与人雷同。 心灵的成熟过程,是持续不断的自我发现、自我探寻的过程。除非我们先了解自己,否则我们很难去了解别人。 兴奋的品质是我们工作能否成功的极重要因素,因为情绪的动力是促成我们向前进的力量。 三点建议: 1 每天抽出时间独处,以进一步认识自己; 2 要打破习惯的束缚/努力破除束缚自我的种种..

---176---

如果你能确定,在你一天中你有一半的时间是对的。那你可以去华尔街了,日赚百万美元,买游艇,娶舞女了。如果你不能确定,你凭什么要指责人家的错误呢?

---177---

“人生应该有两项目标,第一,拥有你想要得到的;第二,要能够享受它们,只有聪明的人才能做到第二点。”

---178---

听别人数说我们的错误很难,但假如对方谦卑地自称他们也并非完美,我们就比较容易接受了。 承认一个人本身的错误,就算你还没有改正过来,也可以帮助改善行为。 在指责别人之前,先想想自己的错误。

---179---

正确的思想,本身就是一种创造。

---180---

席勒:"我们总是希望得到别人的赞扬,同样我们也非常害怕别人对自己的指责。"

---181---

我们的疲劳往往不是由工作引起,而是由于忧烦、挫折和不满等。 情绪上的态度比生理上的操劳更易使人产生疲倦。 能够做自己喜欢做的事,这种人是幸运的。

---182---

人的内心是怎样想的,他就会成为怎样一个人

---183---

亨利·福特曾说:如果有一个成功秘诀的话,那就是站在对方的立场来看待问题,由他的观点设想正同你的观点设想一样。

---184---

若是我们对了,我们要巧妙婉转地让别人赞同我们的观点。可是当我们错误的时候,我们要快速坦直地承认我们的错误。

---185---

在伟大的世界里,造物主为每个人都准备了美满的人生,我们应该下定决心,集中精力,去努力争取。

---186---

我们像喜欢别人一样喜欢自己很重要吗?心理学家说,我们不喜欢自己就没办法喜欢别人。有些人厌烦任何东西,憎恨所有人,其实,这正表现出他对自己十分没有信心,有强烈的自弃倾向。

---187---

你静下心来也许会发现,狗是唯一不需要为自己生活工作的动物,它所有的只是"爱"。

---188---

当你奔走在追求的路上时,千万不要和自己过不去,要按照自己的意志去做你想做的事,爱你想爱的人,成就你想要的事业,这样的人生才没有遗憾。

---189---

对别人的意见要表示尊重。 千万别说:“你错了。”

---190---

等出来的是命运,拼出来的才是人生。

当你足够好,就会遇见他。

---191---

当你快乐时你要想这些不是永恒的,当你痛苦时也要想这些不是永恒的。只有这样才能做到得意时不忘形、不贪恋,失败后也不灰心,不气馁。

---192---

如果你期望致富,你就会致富。

---193---

又想获得成功却又不愿承担获得成功的代价,这是软弱和懒惰的最明显的标志。要得到任何值得欣赏和拥有的东西都必须愉快地付出劳动,这就是实践中力量的奥秘所在。

---194---

究竟出了什么问题? 问题的起因是什么? 你能找到哪些解决办法? 你决定用哪种方法? 我也学习到不对别人期望过高,因此,我仍能从那些对我不坦白的朋友或说闲话的朋友处得到快乐。毕竟我已培养出一种幽默感,一位遇到烦恼,能够以开玩笑代替歇斯底里的女人,已经坚强到刀枪不入了。我一点也不为自己受过的苦感到遗憾,因为我在痛苦中,真正体会到人生的意义。这绝对是值得的。

---195---

上帝在末日之前还不打算审判人,你我为什么要批评人呢?

---196---

一般人对自己的姓名,比把世界上所有的姓名堆在一起的总数,还感到重要和关心。一个政治学家的第一课,就是:记住选民的姓名。

---197---

动用你的天赋,归根结底,所有的艺术都是一种自我价值的外观。

---198---

挑战,是任何成功者都喜爱的一种竞技,一种表现自己的机会;挑战是证明自身价值以及争强斗胜的机会。

---199---

假如我们想交朋友,就应该先出来替别人做些事情,需要时间、精力、公义、体恤的事情。

真诚的对别人发生兴趣

时刻保持微笑,他是我们与人相处最好的方式

我也改掉原有对人的批评,把斥责人家的话,换成赞赏和鼓励。我再也不会说我需要什么,而是尽量去接受别人的观点。眼前的演变,已改变了我原有的生活,现在我是一个跟过去完全不同的人了,一个比过去更快乐,更富有的人。

---200---

如果你的行为散发着快乐,就不可能在心理上保持忧郁。

---201---

我的人生是最糟糕的吗?

那还有什么可担心的?

---202---

我们之所以难以说服别人,是因为我们总以自己的角度出发,强求别人按自己的思路思考问题,而不是试图理解对方是怎么想的、对方为什么会这样想。

---203---

每个人都会对欣赏自己的人心生好感——不论工人、职员、还是君主,无一例外。

---204---

批评就像一只家鸽,它们总会飞回来的。

---205---

若想激怒对方,你只需以激烈的批评作为武器;即使那批评合情合理,对方都可能会记恨终生。

---206---

Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get.

成功是得到你要的。幸福是要你得到的。

---207---

宽容忍让是一种博大的处世胸襟。

---208---

“了解一切,就会宽恕一切!”

---209---

紧张是一种习惯,放松也是一种习惯。

---210---

寻找题材并不只是写些机械化的文字在纸上,或者背诵一连串的字句。他也不是从匆促读过的报章杂志里抽取第二手的意见。他是在自己脑海及心灵里深掘,并将生命贮藏在那里的重要信念提取出来。

---211---

献出你真实,诚恳的赞赏,而不是一味的批评对方。想想如果你处在相同的状态和情形之下,你会怎样做,是否也会像他们一样犯错,或者,在想指责别人的时候,想想林肯吧。

---212---

等待一个真正的爱人要有耐心,不能为了谈恋爱而谈恋爱。要把身边的位置空出来,真命天子出现的时候,他就会自然地走过去,填满你的人生。

单身生活让人有更充足的时间去发现自己感兴趣的事,或者用来学习,提升自己。人生借此可以不断地迈向一个更高的起点,才有可能邂逅优质的爱人。

---213---

做一个善于倾听的人,鼓励别人谈论他们自己,这是让别人如何喜欢你的方式之一。

---214---

别指望别人来感恩,你只需要享受施与的快乐!

---215---

华纳梅格,曾这样承认说:"我在30年前就已经明白,责备人事愚蠢的事,因为要克服自己的缺陷已经非常困难了。"

---216---

生命是一步一个脚印的旅程,不是一场赛跑。昨天的事已经成为历史,明天是个未知数,而今天则是一个上天的礼物,这也是我们要珍惜今天的理由。

---217---

世界上所有的是非对错都是由人们去评判的,只要你自己认为对,就无须在乎别人的看法,也不要妄想别人和你有一样的见解。

---218---

对我们来说,最重要的是不要去看远方模糊的事,而是去做手边清楚的事。

---219---

当你失败的次数够多,而你又没有被击倒,那你就一定会成功!

---220---

人就是如此不知足。人性就是人性—别指望人性会因你的慷慨而有所改变。

---221---

尖锐的批评和攻击,所得的效果等于零。

---222---

一个人的成功,只有由于他的专业技术,而85%则要靠人际关系和他的做人处世能力。

---223---

太阳能比风更快地脱睛你的大衣;仁厚、友善的方式比任何暴力更容易改变别人的心意。

---224---

每个人都要学会按照自己的节奏和内心的选择来生活,与喧嚣、涌动的人群和世界保持一定的距离,如此我们才不会轻易被支配!

---225---

世界上充满了这些人:自私、乐于掳取,所以少数不存私心为别人提供帮助的人,能够大获成功,他们几乎遇不到竞争对手。

---226---

尊重别人,让别人感觉他很重要!

---227---

一个人如果真诚的关心别人,在两个月时间里所交的朋友,要比等着让别人对你发生兴趣,在两年时间里能交的朋友还多。

---228---

生活就像一个沙漏,在沙漏的上半部有成千上万颗沙粒,他们都缓慢有序地从中间那个窄窄的颈口通过。我们都无法让再多一粒沙粒同时通过那个颈口,却又弄不破沙漏,你我和其他人一样,就像这沙漏。每天一起床我们就觉得有成百上千的任务需要在这一天完成。如果我们不是一件一件的去做,让它们如同沙粒沙粒通过颈口一样缓慢的均衡的度过这一天,我们必将破坏自己的身心健康。所以一次只通过一颗沙粒,一次只做好一件事。

---229---

凡不关心别人的人,必会在有生之年遭受重大困难,并且大大伤害到别人。也就是这种人,导致了人类的种种错失。

---230---

女人可以不美丽,但不能不智慧,智慧能重透塑美丽,唯有智慧能使美丽常驻,能使美丽有质的内涵。

---231---

为自己的容颜负责,

是真正爱自己的表现。

任何时候都不失美丽优雅的外表,

才能有足够的自信活得闪耀精彩。

取悦自己才会不断升值。

---232---

找到属于自己的风格,

你需要勇气来坚持自我。

不要做依靠别人才能过好日子的公主,

而是要做自己生活的主人,

当一个有风格的女王。

---233---

设身处地为别人着想,并满足别人内心强烈渴望的需求!

---234---

所谓坚强的特质,是指在面对一切困难时,仍有内在勇气承担外来的考验。

---235---

人生有时候痛苦的不是没有选择,

而是有太多的选择。

当太多的选择和太多的烦恼充满身体的时候,

就要停下脚步,整理人生。

适时将内心放空,

才会有新的能量进来,

我们才会有力量重新启程。

---236---

我闷闷不乐因为我缺少一双鞋,直到在街上我看到别人没了一双脚。

---237---

人不会因为过度劳累而死,却会放荡和忧烦而去

---238---

一个人没有目标,只会将世上的价值观生吞活剥,被其束缚。他们用世俗的标准去衡量一切事情,并且拼命地维护自己的这个标准。

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拿破仑拥有一般人所追求的一切------荣耀、权力、财富------可是他却对圣海莲娜说:“我这一生从来没有过一天快乐的日子。”而海伦·凯勒-----又瞎、又聋、又哑--------却表示:“我发现生命是这样的美好。

---240---

鲁宾逊:"我们发现,有时自己会在毫无抵抗和阻力的情况下,改变自己的意念。"

---241---

谈话时要看着对方的眼睛,这是最起码的沟通技巧。

---242---

送花者手染余香。

---243---

生命是个回力板,你付出什么,便收回什么。

---244---

批评、指责和抱怨是蠢材与生俱来的“才能”;理解和宽容却是对人品和自律的极大考验。

---245---

我们都拥有自己不了解的能力和机会,都有可能做到未曾梦想的事情。

---246---

我不知道怎样做,才能和我所已做的不同。

---247---

乐观的人 在每一个忧患中看到机会 悲观的人 在每一个机会中看到忧患 所以 即使生活欺骗了你 也不要忧郁 不要愤慨 用心憧憬着未来 虽然现实有时令人失望 然而一切都是暂时的 转瞬即逝 而那逝去的都将变为收获

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爱情不是去爱一个完美的人,而是用一段时间去明白,对方是个不完美的人。承认我们都不完美,然后去试着理解对方的那些缺点,并与那个虽然也看到自己的一身缺点,却依然爱自己的人携手前行。

---249---

假如你希望人们都躲着你,一看见你就跑的远远的,在背后嘲笑你,讽刺你,假如你真的希望这样,我可以告诉你一个很好的方法:永远只谈论自己的事情;永远不要认真听别人说话;当你对别人正在谈论重要的事情有自己的观点的时候,立即打断别人,不要等对方把话说完。在你的心目中,你要比他聪明得多,你才不愿意浪费时间听他那些愚蠢的话,没错你要立刻行动,仅仅用一句话,就可以让别人闭嘴。

---250---

在事业成功的各因素中,个性的重要性远胜过优秀的智力。

---251---

命运给你酸柠檬,把它做成柠檬汁。

---252---

相较于情绪,个人意志对行为的影响更为直接,只要调整行为,我们就能间接地调整情绪

---253---

饰品是女人身上的风情。

一件合宜的饰品,

能将一个女人的气质完美地勾勒出来。

饰品不要太多,一两件,

点缀你的淡淡风情即可。

小而精致的白珍珠和红宝石是永远不会褪色的经典。

---254---

在漫长的岁月里,你和我一定会遇到一些令人不快的事情,既然它们是这样,就不可能是别样。

---255---

零星的时间,如果能敏捷地加以利用,可成为完整的时间。所谓“积土成山”是也,失去一日甚易,欲得回已无途。

---256---

不患人之不知己,患不能也。

---257---

如果你是对的,就要试着温和地、有技巧地让对方同意你;如果你错了,就要迅速而真诚地承认。这要比为自己争辩有效和有趣得多。

---258---

在幻想中,我们允许自己遵循他们自己的路径而行,而这些路径完全凭我们的希望和恐惧而定;凭我们自然的欲望的实现与幻灭而定;凭我们的喜、恶、爱、恨、憎、怨而定。世上再没什么比我们自己更令我们感兴趣了。

---259---

抱怨会让我们陷入一种负面的生活,工作态度中,常常在他人身上找缺点,包括最亲密的人。不抱怨的人一定是最快乐的,永不抱怨的世界一定令人向往。如果每个人都能把抱怨变成善意的沟通,把抱怨变成积极的建议,把抱怨变成正面的行动,就会惊喜的发现一份近在咫尺的成功和一个没有抱怨的全新世界。

---260---

我发现运动是克服忧虑的最佳方法。当你烦恼时,多用肌肉,少伤脑筋,结果会出人意料的好。对我来说 当我运动时,也正是烦恼离我而去时。

---261---

乔治·库克将军曾说过:“几乎所有的忧虑和哀伤并非来自现实,而是来自我们的胡乱猜想。”

---262---

一个人不能没有生活,而生活的内容,也不能使它没有意义。做一件事,说一句话,无论事情的大小,说话的多少,你都得自己先有了计划,先问问自己做这件事、说这句话,有没有意义?你能这样做,就是奋斗基础的开始奠定。

---263---

世上人人都在寻求快乐,但只有一个确实有效的方法,那就是控制你的思想。快乐不在乎外界的情况,而是依靠内心的情况。

---264---

叔本华说:“我们很少想到我们所拥有的,却总是忧虑自己所缺少的。人类这种倾向常会导致世上最悲惨的事情发生,而带来的后果只怕比所有的战争和疾病都要严重。”

---265---

人们会做一件事情,都有两种理由存在:一种是好的,另一种是的确很好。

---266---

我们不久就可看出,彼此的意见相距并不很远,不同的地方很少,而相同的地方却很多。

---267---

如果我们想交朋友,就要先为别人做些事——那些需要花时间、体力、体贴、奉献才能做到的事。

---268---

爱情的确是这样一种用来装扮生命的东西,却永远无法成为生命的根基。不要羡慕那些找到所属、踏入婚姻的女人,他们需要十足的聪明和豁达,付出多你几百倍的包容和忍耐才能赢得一点世俗安稳、岁月静好,且不说在这场漫长的拉锯战中被磨损的逐渐面目模糊的自我。而虽然爱情未至,你却可以把已婚妇女养孩子哄老公的功夫用在自己身上,读书、画画、听音乐、看电影、做美容,在某天与已婚的好友不期而遇时,你一定看上去比她更年轻、更充满希望、更让人向往。

---269---

天底下只有一种方法可以促使他人去做任何事——给他想要的东西。

大多数人需要的东西包括:

①健康的身体②食物③睡眠④金钱和金钱可以买来的东西⑤未来生活的保障⑥性满足⑦儿女的幸福⑧被人重视的感觉

以上除了一项以外都不难满足。它就是弗洛伊德所说的“渴望伟大”或杜威所说的“希望具有重要性”。詹姆士也说过人类本质里最殷切的需求是渴望被人肯定。他不用“希望”“需要”或者“盼望”等字眼,而用的是“渴望”这个词。

这种渴望不断地啃噬人的心灵,少数懂得满足人类这种欲望的人便可以将他人掌握在手中。

---270---

在你过去的生活中,你伤害过谁,也早已忘记了,可是被你伤害的那个人却永远不会忘记你。他决不会记住你的优点,而是记住你对他的伤害。

---271---

对于我们大家来说,生活中最重要的事情不是遥望将来,而是动手理清自己手边实实在在的事。

---272---

世上充满了有趣的事情可做,在这令人兴奋的世界中,不要过着乏味的生活。

---273---

每个人都必须遵从内心的选择,

成为独一无二的自己。

否则,即便成功,也不会快乐。

---274---

改变自己远比改变他人令你受益更多,并且风险更小。

---275---

人类百分之70的烦恼都和金钱有关,并不是他们没有足够的钱,而是不知道如何支配手中已有的钱!

---276---

此心自有道理,是为道理所不自知。

---277---

噢,是的!不过我还有另一种想法,但我也许不对。我总是这样。如果我错了,还请你指正。让我们来看看问题所在。

---278---

女人的青春如花期一般短暂,

最幸运的爱情是遇到一个人,

你能安静绽放,

获得成长和找到自己,

如飞蛾扑火般的感情不是每个人都能消受得起。

---279---

一个面带微笑的人将永远受欢迎!

---280---

调和饮食、安心静养与精神快乐,是这个世界上最优秀的三大名医。

---281---

六种让别人喜欢的方法

a.真诚的对别人产生兴趣。

b.做一个善于倾听的人,鼓励别人谈论他们自己。

c.记住一个人的姓名。

d.微笑,是给人良好印象的简单方法。

e.谈论别人感兴趣的话题。

f.让别人感觉到自己的重要性,并且真诚的赞赏别人的成就或是贡献。

---282---

我坚信,我们之所以情感错乱是因为我们对上帝缺乏坚定不移的信仰。

---283---

“我们如何克服恐惧?”

“全世界只有一种方法可以使你永远克服恐惧。另一种方法可以使你能暂时克服它。全世界只有一种永远克服恐惧的方法,也就是爱默生所说的:‘去做你恐惧的事,而死亡的恐惧是绝对的。’”

---284---

阿尔法女士是我非常尊敬的一位女性。她顶着英国皇家贵族的头衔,拒绝父母为自己安排的贵族婚姻,坚持等待爱情,并把自己的生活过得有声有色。

当时,拒绝父母为自己安排的婚姻,阿尔法女士刚好三十岁。在很多人看来,三十岁是个足以令未婚且没有恋爱对象的女人着急的年龄,可阿尔法女士却坚持要等待生命中对的那个人。她一边等待王子的出现,一边潜心研究玫瑰精华露和香水,并将其研发成产品上市,使阿尔法玫瑰露、玫瑰香水成为首个从皇室里走出去的品牌。事业上的成功带给了阿尔法女士巨大的精神满足。在接受采访的时候,三十四岁的阿尔法女士表示:自己过得很好,虽然爱情是生命中重要的组成部分,但不是全部。

---285---

如果你希望做好,你就会做好,如果你期望致富,你就会致富,如果你想博学,你就会博学。真正地期盼这些事情,心无旁鹜地一心盼想,而不会费许多心神再去胡思乱想许多不相干的杂事。

---286---

当我们钓鱼时,首先要考虑的是鱼儿想吃什么?

---287---

只要下定决心克服恐惧,便几乎能克服任何恐惧。因为,请记住,除了在脑海中,恐惧无处藏身。

---288---

知性和年龄有关,和阅历有关,和心态有关

---289---

将自己的热忱与经验融入谈话中,是打动人的速简方法,也是必然要件。如果你对自己的话不感兴趣,怎能期望他人感动。

---290---

如果你希望成为一个善于谈话的人,那就先做一个喜欢倾听的人。即使始终挑剔的人,甚至是最激烈的批评者,也常常会在一个有耐力和同情心的静听者面前软化降服。

---291---

了解鱼的需求,需要你有捕捉对方观点的能力,兼顾自己和对方的不同角度。设身处地为他人着想,了解别人心里想着什么的人,永远不用担心未来!

---292---

你在这个世界上是个新东西,应该为这一点而庆幸,应该尽量利用大自然所赋予你的一切。归根结底说起来,所有的艺术都带着一些自传体。你只能唱你自己的歌,画你自己的画,做一个由你的经验、你的环境和你的家庭所造成的你。不论好坏,你都得自己创造一个自己的小花园;不论好坏,你都得在生命的交响乐中,演奏你自己的小乐器。

---293---

一个人的成功只有15%是靠专业知识,而85%则要靠人际关系和为人处世的技巧。

---294---

从呱呱坠地开始,人们的每一个行为举动,都源自他内心的欲求。你大概会反驳说,向红十字会捐款可不是为了我自己。然而,捐款不仅因为你想伸出援助之手,更因为你的内心深处渴求着这个美好无私的举动所带来的满足感。

---295---

一个不甘平庸的人,必须要有一个明确的追求目标,如此才能调动起自己的智慧和精力。

---296---

当你拥有某种信仰的时候,你会变得很强大,随时都充满自信和勇气。

---297---

快乐的代价,就是你要牺牲你多疑的态度、愤世嫉俗的心理、不合时宜的习惯。

---298---

在辩论中,获得最大利益的唯一方法,就是避免辩论。

尊重别人的意见,永远别指摘对方是错的。

如果你错了,迅速、郑重的承认下来。

以友善的方法开始。

使对方很快的回答'是!是!'。

尽量让对方,有多说话的机会。

使对方以为这是他的意念。

要真诚的以他人的观点去看事情。

同情对方的意念和欲望。

激发更高尚的动机。

使你的意念戏剧化。

提出一个挑战。

人性的弱点)

---299---

人与人之间需要一种平衡,就像大自然需要平衡一样。不尊重别人感情的人,最终只会引起别人的讨厌和憎恨。

---300---

法国作家拉劳士福古曾说过:"敌人对我们自己的看法比我们自己的观点可能更接近事实。"

---301---

如果我们有安宁的思想和足够的勇气,那么坐在自己的棺木上,人们也能欣赏无限的风景,在饥寒交迫时也能高声歌唱。

---302---

设法协助别人,恐惧便会消失。

---303---

“在哪里跌倒了,就在哪里站起来。"戴尔·卡耐基这样说,也这样做。

---304---

苦难是金,你并不是一无所有

---305---

诚于嘉许,宽于称道。

---306---

人生如舞台,如果你单单叙述一件事情,就无法打动人心。所以你必须生动活泼的把事实编造成一种喜剧的形态,也就是以喜剧的手法来处理你的人生,使你的周围洋溢着欢欣鼓舞的气氛。

---307---

与人相处最高明的智慧(策略)是做到比对方高明但要让对方感到不如他(她)高明。

---308---

世界上唯一能影响别人的方法,是谈论他所需要的,并告诉他怎样得到。

---309---

你我都只是历史长河中的一小滴水,并不是我们个人的存在成就了历史,而是历史的前进孕育了你我的人生

---310---

一个人之所以伟大,首先在于他有一个伟大的目标。

---311---

如果我们内心有坚定的信念,那么我们就必须坚持信念,做好生命中的每一件事。信念不会让任何人失望,然而我们总是在困难面前放弃信念

---312---

我喜欢吃草莓,但我不会在钓鱼的时候将草莓放在鱼钩上,因为鱼喜欢吃蚯蚓。

---313---

心灵是他自己的殿堂,它可成为地狱中的天堂,也可成为天堂中的地狱。

---314---

太阳可以使你脱下衣服比风快的多,和善、友谊及欣赏的方法,能使人改变思想,比在基督教世界中所有的狂风暴雨容易得多。

---315---

想要得到别人的认同,请记住:

a.在辩论中获得最大胜利的唯一方法,就是避免辩论。

b.尊重他人的意见,不要轻易说出“你错了”。

c.如果你错了,请立刻真诚的承认。

d.采用友善的方法,永远比暴力方式更有效。

e.从一开始就让他说“是”

f.让别人多说话,多倾听别人所说的话。

g.让对方自己做决定,并且让他们认为这是他们自己的观点。

h.真诚地为他人着想,以他人的观点去看问题。

i.同情对方的想法和遭遇,从对方的立场出发。

j.想办法激发他们更高尚的动机。

k.使你的想法戏剧化。

l.提出一个挑战,激起他们好胜的欲望。

---316---

成功者做别人不敢做的事情,成功者做别人不愿意做的事情,成功者做别人做不到的事情。

---317---

一种最简单又重要的获取对方好感的方法就是牢记对方的名字。

---318---

承认自己也许会弄错,就能避免争论,而且,可以使对方跟你一样宽宏大度,承认他也可能有错。

---319---

想着这些,泪水充满了我的眼眶。我用枕头蒙住头,把床单拉过头顶,小声地呜咽着。我不愿被人看到,但苦涩郁积于心,疼痛和难过让我不住地发抖。

---320---

释迦牟尼曾这样说:“恨永远无法止恨,只有爱可以止恨”

---321---

困难也许是上帝对你的特别馈赠,将开启另一段幸福生活

---322---

待人处世的三项原则:

a.不要批评、指责或抱怨别人。

b.看到别人的优点,给予真挚诚恳的赞赏。

c.激发别人内心强烈渴望的需求。

---323---

只要把以下4步落实到实处,就能消除90%的忧虑:

⑴准备写出我所担心的事情究竟是什么;

⑵针对所担心的事情,我下一步将会怎样;

⑶选择并做出最终决定;

⑷把决定付诸于实践。

---324---

当人们想相信一件事情的时候,是没法叫他不信的。

---325---

我敬仰的威廉·詹姆斯曾说:“心甘情愿的接受吧!接受事实是克服任何不幸的第一步。”

---326---

做一个有坚定信念的普通人。

---327---

你变了世界就变了

---328---

今天是如此珍贵,不值得为苦涩的烦恼和悔恨而糟蹋了它。抬高你的下巴,保持思想开朗,如同春阳下闪耀的水涧。

---329---

我们大多数人的体内都潜伏着巨大的才能,但这种潜能酣睡着,一旦被激发,便能做出惊人的事业来

---330---

你快乐还是不快乐,与你拥有什么、你是谁、你在哪、以及你在做什么都没有直接的关系,它只与你在想什么有关 。

---331---

一个懒惰心理的危险,比懒惰的手足,不知道要超过多少倍。而且医治懒惰的心理,比医治懒惰的手足还要难。因为我们做一件不愿意不高兴的工作,身体的各部分,都感到不安和无聊。反过来说,如果对于这种工作有兴趣、愉快,工作效率不但高,身心也感觉到十分舒适。因不适宜的劳动,使身心忧郁而患成的病症,医生称为懒惰病。

---332---

世俗有“时间是金钱”这句话,所以窃取他人时间的小偷,显然该加以处罚。

---333---

任何人的信用,如果要把它断送了都不需要多长时间。就算你是一个极谨慎的人,仅须偶尔忽略,偶尔因循,那么好的名誉,便可立刻毁损。所以养成小心谨慎的习惯,实在重要极了。

---334---

为了成功地生活,少年人必须学习自立,铲除埋伏各处的障碍,在家庭要教养他,使他具有为人所认可的独立人格。

---335---

让信仰的力量和心安的感觉充满心中。

---336---

一个在奋斗途径上努力的人,要是不把步骤分清楚,等于你旅行一个地方,不先规定睡眠和行程一般。分清步骤,是十分重要的。

---337---

假如连你自己都甘愿在自己头上戴上一顶失败者的帽子,那么你将永远失去摘出这顶帽子的信心和勇气;假如你从心底里认为自己是,并且只能是一个失败者,那么你将永远只能与失败为伍,终身碌碌无为,像你认为的那样。在失败面前,唯有你才能拯救自己

---338---

“在批评他人之前,先改变你自己的错误。”

卡耐基指出,用“建议”,而不用下“命令”,不但能维持对方的自尊,而且能使他乐于改正错误,并与你合作。

---339---

成功第一原则

拥有自己的信念,付诸行动

---340---

生命太短暂了,不要为了小事而烦恼。

---341---

不论推销什么,你首先要做的第一件事情就是尽可能地了解它。

---342---

If you want to conquer fear, don't sit at home and think about it. Go out and get busy.

如果你想要征服恐惧,不要只是坐在家里空想你的恐惧。走出去让自己忙起来。

---343---

吾等要务,非着眼缥缈之远方,而应着手实在之近处

---344---

雪晴后的冬日,他们手拉着手,穿越一片银色的树林,只见——

橡树,榛树和胡桃树穿起貂皮大衣,

比伯爵们还要高贵;

榆树中最贫穷的枝桠,

如今也挂上了晶莹的珍珠。

---345---

人类天性中最悲哀的一点就在于,我们漠视眼前的生活。我们都幻想天边有一处魅力无穷的玫瑰花园,却无法欣赏今天盛开于窗外的玫瑰花。

---346---

卡耐基告诉你消除忧虑的六个原则:

☆使自己忙碌起来

☆不要被生活中的小事所困扰,要忘掉它们

☆用概率衡量自己担心发生的事情,以此来安慰自己

☆对于那些无法改变的事情,我们要轻松地接受

☆为忧虑限定一个标准

☆要从过去的错误中走出来

---347---

我们迟早要学会一件事,那就是必须接受和适应那些不可避免的事情。对于我们无法预料或者我们的意志力所不及的事情,大可以一笑了之

---348---

所以要牢记着,职位如不靠你的努力得来,或不是由你成绩换来的,那么一定不能保持你的名誉,是没有什么真正价值的。

---349---

事实上,凡你遇见的人,甚至你在镜子中见到的自己,都高看自己,并按照自己的估量,做高尚而不自私的人。

---350---

要承担自己行为的后果,要为自己的行为负责,而不是光踢椅子!

---351---

美国著名律师欧文说:“能够设身处地的为别人着想,洞察别人心理的人,永远不必担心自己的前途。”

---352---

有时除了思考和分析外还具备什么

果断,勇敢,立即行动

---353---

如果一个人只是过一天算一天,什么希望也没有,他的生命实际上也就停止了。

[法]莫泊桑一个人即使尚未改正他的错误,但只要他承认自己的错误,就能帮助另一个人改变他的行为。

---354---

耶稣曾说过:“凭他们所结的果,就能认出他们来。”

---355---

朝着一定的目标走去是“志”;一鼓作气中途不停止是“气”。两者合起来就是志气,一切事情的成败都取决于此。

---356---

阳光的性格比财富更重要。

---357---

能够使自己得到幸福的惟有自己

---358---

1、一旦她期望全世界的人都可怜她,她便永远也不会得到快乐。

2、寂寞的人通常都不理解,爱和友情是不会像礼物一样包装得漂漂亮亮地送到你手上的。

3、一个人需要努力去让别人喜欢,但却不能将爱和友情以及美好时光当成合同来签订。

4、她必须让自己被他人接受,她要付出她自己,而不是指望别人的付出。

5、女人在生活的风雨无情袭来的时候,要驻足风雨之后的彩虹,不要一味沉浸于风雨所带给你的伤害。让美丽绝伦的彩虹引导你的思想更加勇敢、快乐、平静而有力。另外不忘自己应该感恩的事,你的心中将会又是一片艳阳天。

---359---

1、渴望友情又只限于与别人有一种令自己满意的关系。其实,这是一种典型的寂寞心态。和许多人不同,这种想法其实是本末倒置的,想要人家喜欢自己,却不肯费心让自己喜欢他人。

2、我们必须感受他人的感受, 我们必须了解伤害到他人也会伤害我们自己。如果我们打算将真诚带入与他人的关系中,我们就必须获得这种真诚的感情。

3、打动人心的最佳方式是;跟他谈论他最珍贵的事物。当你这么做时,不但会受到欢迎,也会使生命获得扩展。

4、不患人之不知己,患不能也。

---360---

生命如此短暂,我们没有时间争吵、道歉、伤心。我们只有时间去爱

---361---

在脸上放一个大大、宽宽、诚实无欺的笑容,把双肩向后拉直,好好地、深深地吸上一口气,再唱上一段歌儿,若是不会唱歌,就吹个口哨,若是不会吹哨,就哼个曲子。

---362---

Adaptability is a weapon to solve difficulties in life. It is more valuable than book knowledge.

随机应变的智能,是解决生活上困难的武器,要比书本上的知识有价值得多。

---363---

任何傻瓜都可能批评、责备和抱怨——大多数傻瓜也的确是这样做的。

---364---

优雅,不在于经济上有多富有,而在于内心多强大。

---365---

伤害人的东西有三种:烦恼、争吵、空的钱包。

---366---

天底下只有一个办法可以影响人,就是提出他们的需要,并且让他们知道怎样去获得。

---367---

要想别人对你友善,要想与同事和睦地相处,处理好上下级关系,那就绝不能去触动别人心灵的伤疤。

---368---

在这个世界上,影响他人的唯一方法就是谈论他们想要的,并且告诉他们如何得到。

---369---

如果你不是正在成为自己理想中的人,那就是在不自觉的成为你所不想成为的那种人。

---370---

他以为那是对你最大的侮辱,可你什么都没有说,只是一笑置之…

---371---

为了博得同情和关注,人们有时会假装弱小,从而获得存在感。

---372---

当别人对我们表示关怀的时候,我们也开始关心他们。

---373---

拥有神奇效果的话:“你会这样想,我根本不会怪你。如果我是你的话,我也会这样想”

---374---

我的座右铭是:第一是诚实,第二是勤勉,第三是专工作。

---375---

人并非理性生物,他们由情感驱使,被偏见支配,傲慢与虚荣是他们的动力之源

---376---

一片最后的树叶

布满青苔的石板,

盖在他曾亲吻的芳唇上,

多年以前镌刻墓碑的,

是他心爱的人的名字。

---377---

天底下只有一种方法可以促使他人去做任何事:给他想要的东西

---378---

如果没有独立的思维方法、生活能力和自己的主见。那么所谓的生活、事业就无从谈起。众人观点各异,欲听也无所适从。只有别把别人的话当做参考,走自己的路,才会走向成功。

---379---

对喜欢逃避责任的人来说,困难无疑成了最好的挡箭牌

---380---

你脸皮得厚!

---381---

诺贝尔医学奖得主卡瑞尔博士曾经说过:“不知如何对抗忧虑的人,往往英年早逝。”这句话事实上适用于我们每一个人。

---382---

成为领导人,如何去改变他人

a.如果你想要改变一个人的意志,就不能让对方难堪,反感,更不能与对方激烈地争辩。第一项原则:在谈话的开始,不妨使用称赞和真诚的欣赏。

b.如果要让别人改正错误,请记住第二项原则:不要直接指出他人的过错,要旁敲侧击地暗示。

c.在批评对方之前,先进行自我批评。

d.不要直接命令对方,不妨用提问的方式,委婉的提出自己的意见。

e.顾全对方的面子,不要伤害别人的自尊。

f.称赞别人的每一个进步,哪怕是最细微的地方。

g.不断的鼓励他人,让他觉得错误是十分容易改正的。

h.给别人戴上一顶“高帽子”。

i.给对方一个奖励,让别人心甘情愿爱你照你的建议去做。

---383---

f you want to conquer fear, don't sit at home and think about it. Go out and get busy.

如果你想要征服恐惧,不要只是坐在家里空想你的恐惧。走出去让自己忙起来。

---384---

每个人都不可能完美无缺,只有从内心接受自己,喜欢自己,坦然地展示真实的自己才能拥有成功快乐的人生!

---385---

Socrates' viewpoints and handling skills are now known as the "Socratic debate method", which is to make others say "yes" from the beginning. The questions he raised could always gain the agreement of opponents, and after getting "yes" one after another, he could make the other party unconsciously give up the original point of view and accept his suggestions.

---386---

Develop good work habits

⑴The first good work habit: take away everything that is not related to your current work. Then you will find that your work is much easier to handle and you will have a better idea of ​​what to do.

⑵The second good work habit: being able to distinguish the importance of things and arrange the order of work.

⑶The third good work habit: If you have to make a decision when you encounter a problem, do it immediately and don’t procrastinate.

⑷The fourth good work habit: learn how to organize, divide responsibilities and supervise.

---387---

If you tell your children, spouse, or subordinates that they lack talent in some area, you have made a big mistake, as this will make them lose their enthusiasm for learning. On the contrary, if you are more generous, give them sufficient encouragement, and let them believe that they can do well and have great potential, they will continue to work hard and make continuous progress.

---388---

I feel healthy, I feel happy, and I feel like I am making a difference!

---389---

The only effective way to make a person do anything willingly is to satisfy their needs.

---390---

I only wish you were gentle and powerful

---391---

We should be modest, for neither you nor I have achieved much. We are all mere passers-by, and a century from now we will be totally forgotten. Life is too short to bore others with our own little achievements, but let us encourage others to talk more.

---392---

Try to work in a comfortable position. Remember, physical tension can create shoulder pain and mental fatigue.

---393---

It is a shame to die in great wealth.

---394---

In the spring of 1871 Sir William Osler saw the words that made him a famous physician: "It is above all things to look not at what is vague in the distance, but to do what is clear at hand."

---395---

Owen Young never said "Do this or that" or "Don't do this, don't do that." He always said, "You can consider this," or "Do you think it's okay to do this?" After dictating a letter, he often said, "What do you think of this letter?" When checking a letter written by an assistant, he always said, "Maybe we can change this sentence to this, it will be better." He always gave people the opportunity to do it themselves; he never told his assistants how to do things; he let them do it themselves and let them learn from their mistakes and successful experiences. This method makes it easy for people to correct their mistakes, and maintains people's self-esteem, makes them think they are important, and makes them want to cooperate with you instead of resisting you.

---396---

The most important thing in life is not to use success as capital, even a fool would do that. What is important is to rise from failure and benefit from it, which requires wisdom and intelligence, and is the difference between a wise man and a fool.

---397---

When you feel intimidated, ask yourself, "If they succeeded, why can't I?"

---398---

Harvard psychologist and philosopher William James explains the two approaches this way:

Behavior should follow emotions, but in fact, behavior and emotions are unified. Behavior is more directly controlled by our will, while emotions are not. Therefore, we can indirectly adjust our emotions by adjusting our behavior.

---399---

Adler, a famous psychologist in Vienna, once wrote in his book “The Meaning of Life to You”: “A person who does not care about others and is not interested in others will suffer great obstacles and difficulties in his life, and will also bring great harm and distress to others. All human failures are caused by such people.”

---400---

If you don’t know what you want, how can destiny give you what you want?

---401---

Live a complete and independent today.

---402---

Smile and face everything

---403---

We pay attention to the nutrition of our children, our families, and our employees, and care about their health, but forget that self-esteem also needs nutrition and care; we roast beef and potatoes to provide nourishment for others, but refuse to provide spiritual food, never realizing that words of praise will shine like the morning star in their memory.

---404---

Those who cannot get angry are fools, and those who do not get angry are wise.

---405---

The second principle of success

Act when the opportunity arises

---406---

Criticism will not change the facts, but will instead cause resentment.

---407---

I would tell myself over and over again: "Listen, as long as you can eat, walk, and not suffer from illness, you are the happiest person in the world. No matter what happens, don't forget this! Don't forget!"

---408---

Interpersonal relationships are the communication between people. It is a modern way to express the golden rule in the Bible: "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."

---409---

It is certainly dangerous for a ship to sail in rough waves, but as long as the helmsman is good at dealing with it, it is possible to turn danger into safety, cross the ocean and reach the other side safely. The same is true for a young person's employment. You are surrounded by difficulties on all sides. You have to deal with them calmly. Once you break through the layers of obstacles, you will find your way to success. You must know that God will never disappoint the ambitions of those who are determined to make progress, unless you are afraid of difficulties and live in complacency, and have no perseverance to deal with them, then you will fail.

---410---

You cannot control your birth, nor can you choose your physical defects, but you can completely make your life unaffected by these unfavorable factors, and with tenacious will and unremitting efforts, you can find your own road to success.

---411---

The Germans have a saying: "The purest joy is the joy we get from other people's difficulties."

---412---

Ambition and passion are the wings of great achievements

---413---

If you are attacked by someone maliciously, remember that they are doing it to gain a sense of self-importance, which usually means that you have achieved something and deserve attention. Many people get a sense of satisfaction from scolding people who are far better than they are in every way. Please regard unfair criticism from others as another form of recognition.

---414---

Neither of us has the right to be depressed! Because I have no shoes, and he has no feet. As long as I am alive, I have the right to say, I have no right to be depressed.

---415---

The world is never short of opportunities, but it lacks people who can seize them.

---416---

A sage from the East once said: "An angry person is full of poison."

---417---

We must acknowledge the fact that the people we want to criticize and curse, regardless of whether they are wrong or not, will insist on arguing, find excuses for their actions, or even retaliate with bad words.

---418---

Carnegie said, "Discover yourself. You are you. There is no one like you on earth... In this world, you are a unique existence. You can only sing in your own way, you can only paint in your own way. You are what your admirers, your environment, and your genetics have made you. For better or worse, you can only cultivate your own little garden; for better or worse, you can only play your own notes in the music of life.

---419---

  1. Try not to write a speech before giving it, otherwise you will easily fall into the trap of memorizing the speech. However, practice before the speech is very necessary.

  2. Preparation is required before a speech. Only by fully preparing and thinking about the topic of the speech can you speak freely on the topic.

  3. When you express your opinions clearly, you should develop the habit of expressing things clearly.

  4. Improve your speech style and personality. Don’t imitate others. Don’t try to learn others’ elegant movements. Be yourself and be a speaker with personality.

  5. Read more, think more, and practice more.

---420---

Overcoming the fear of avoidance can be achieved by forcing yourself to do the thing you fear

---421---

The only way to influence someone in the world is to discuss what he wants and tell him how to get it.

---422---

Pointless arguments not only damage your character, but also make you lose your self-control.

---423---

If you want others to change their minds and agree with your point of view, you might as well stimulate her noble motives and put a "hat" on her.

---424---

Napoleon and Helen Keller are both excellent examples of Milton's poetry. Napoleon had all the honor, power and wealth that the world desires, but he said this in St. Helena: "I can't count more than six happy days in my life." And Helen Keller, although blind and deaf, unable to speak like a normal person, concluded: "I find life so beautiful."

---425---

Williams, a famous professor at Harvard University and the most prestigious psychologist and philosopher in the United States, once said: "Compared with what we should have accomplished, we are only half awake, and we are only using a small part of our potential. That is to say, everyone should live like this, far within his due limit. We have all kinds of power, but we are often not used."

---426---

There is a saying in the world that "time is money", so thieves who steal other people's time should certainly be punished, and even those pleasant and good people should still avoid them as if they were a taboo disease.

---427---

It is best to forget your troubles while taking a walk. You might as well go out and try it. All your troubles will fly away as if they have wings.

---428---

Anyone who seeks a sense of self-respect in the real world in a crazy fantasy but cannot get it is likely to go crazy.

---429---

As time goes by, everyone is bound to encounter unpleasant things. If they are already like this, they can't be changed into other ways.

---430---

If you want to change others and make them willing to accept your advice, you should remember these principles:

a. Your suggestions must be sincere, and don't make promises that you can't keep. Don't just think about your own interests, pay attention to the interests of others.

b. Be clear about what you want the other party to do and what results you will achieve.

c. Understand other people's feelings. Think about things from other people's perspectives and think about what they really need.

d. Think about what benefits your suggestions can bring to others.

e. Connect what the other party needs to do with the benefits they can obtain.

f. When you make a request, write down the benefits it will bring to the other party.

---431---

Rather than waiting for others to criticize you or your work, you should recognize your own weaknesses first. We can be our own worst critics, and we should know ourselves, recognize and deal with our weaknesses before others catch them.

---432---

Frost dyes your black hair; when time flies, it is too late to regret!

---433---

Insincere flattery is like counterfeit money. Once used, it will bring trouble.

---434---

Galileo also said this: “You can’t teach people to do anything. You can only help and guide them to discover things for themselves.”

---435---

Someone who truly likes others can make more friends in two months than someone who tries hard to be liked by others can in two years.

---436---

If you want to make enemies, make them stronger than your friends; but if you want to make friends, make your friends stronger than you.

---437---

Professor Philip said: "If you want others to be interested in your topic, then you should take the initiative to talk about the topic that he is interested in."

---438---

Always avoid confronting others.

---439---

Criticism does not produce any results because it puts the other person into defense mode and they try to defend themselves. Criticism is also dangerous because it hurts a person's self-esteem and sense of self-worth and makes them hold grudges.

---440---

There is a great "induction" force between the mind and the heart. Although this "induction" force cannot be measured, its stimulating power, its destructive and constructive power are very huge. If you often mix with people who are inferior to you, they will definitely drag you down and lower your ambitions and ideals.

---441---

Learn to like yourself.

---442---

The famous scholar Elliott said: "There is no mystery in successful business dealings - listening attentively is the most important thing. No other method will make people happier than this."

---443---

Only 15% of a person's career success depends on his professional skills, and the other 85% depends on his professional skills.

---444---

Only 15% of a person's success is attributed to his professional knowledge, and the other 85% is attributed to his ability to express ideas, lead others and arouse others' enthusiasm.

---445---

If you act "as if" you are interested in your work, that little bit of expression will make your interest real and will reduce your fatigue, your tension, and your anxiety.

---446---

I believe that our inner peace and the happiness we get in life do not depend on where we are, what we have, or who we are, but only on the state of our mind. Here, external factors have little to do with it. No one and nothing can bring you peace except yourself.

---447---

Have I ever suggested that we should give in to all the disasters that come our way? Never! That is fatalism. As long as there is a slight chance that we can save the situation, we must fight.

---448---

Believe you will be successful and you will.

---449---

Why do we think that having a secure and comfortable life, without any troubles, comfort and leisure, can make people good or happy? On the contrary, those who feel sorry for themselves will continue to feel sorry for themselves, even when they are lying comfortably on a big cushion.

---450---

The famous philosopher John Dewey said: "The deepest impulse of human nature is the desire to be important." (American philosopher, educator, pragmatist)

---451---

The famous psychologist Freud once said: "Everything we do stems from two motivations: the desire for sex and the desire for success."

---452---

The secret recipe for cooking "success" is to put "ambition" into the pot of "effort", simmer it over a low fire of "perseverance", and add "judgment" as seasoning.

---453---

There is a saying that those who cannot get angry are fools, and those who do not get angry are wise.

---454---

Human nature: After doing something wrong, we never reflect on ourselves or blame ourselves, but instead blame others for the mistakes.

---455---

Any fool can condemn, criticize, and complain about others - and most fools do just that. But a truly wise person needs the self-control and character to understand and forgive others.

---456---

Franklin said: "If you debate and refute, you may win, but the victory is short-lived and empty... You will never win the other party's favor."

---457---

There is only one way to achieve the greatest victory in a debate, and that is to avoid debate as much as possible.

---458---

Remember this rule: always make others feel important.

As John Dewey said, "The desire to be appreciated is the most urgent need of human nature." Dr. James also said, "The deepest essence of human nature is the desire to be appreciated."

---459---

A taste of pain isn't necessarily a bad thing. I'm glad I once had the hardest job in the world, which makes all the problems I encounter seem insignificant.

---460---

Never open your mouth and say, "I'm going to prove it to you." It's even worse. It's the same as saying, "I'm smarter than you, and I can provide one or two facts to prove you wrong." This is equivalent to a challenge in public, which will not only fail to solve the problem, but will cause the other party to be disgusted.

---461---

If you feel like you can't smile, what can you do? You can try doing two things: first, force yourself to smile; second, when you are alone, force yourself to whistle or sing a song, as if you are happy to do these things. Then you can really make yourself happy.

---462---

We are our own harshest critics, and we should recognize and deal with our weaknesses before others catch them.

---463---

If a person humbly admits at the beginning that he may make mistakes and is not infallible, then others may not find it hard to hear him judge his own mistakes.

---464---

I have found that the best antidote to worry is exercise. When you are worried, use your muscles more and your brain less. You will be surprised at the effect.

---465---

We must not forget that if we want our children to be grateful, we ourselves must set an example. All our words and actions are becoming increasingly important, and we must never discredit the kindness of others in front of our children.

---466---

Kaoru Saito, a well-known Japanese female psychologist, said it well: "I think cosmetics are not just something you put on your skin, but something you put on your spirit. We often say that people feel better after using cosmetics, but in fact, it also alleviates women's mental pain from a deeper level."

---467---

Johnson once said: "To form the habit of seeing the best in everything is a priceless treasure."

---468---

Lincoln once said: "Most people get as much happiness as they choose to have."

---469---

The famous doctor said: "All these diseases are like relatives. They are interrelated and affect each other. The source is worry."

---470---

If you want to be a person who is talkative and popular, you need to listen to other people's conversations, ask questions that others like to answer, and encourage them to talk about themselves and their achievements.

---471---

He told me that when he was young, he was extremely eager to be popular and impress everyone. At that time, any criticism would hurt him. But the subsequent 30 years of naval career made him tough. He said: "At that time, I was beaten and scolded, falsely accused of being a mean and sinister jerk, cursed by veterans, and all the insulting swear words in the English language were used on me. You ask if it affected me? Ha! When I heard someone scolding me, I didn't even bother to turn my head back!"

---472---

Don't be afraid to sell yourself if you think you have talent.

---473---

I will walk this path of life; once I walk this path, I will never be able to do it again. I will do all the good deeds within my power, and if there is goodwill in my heart, I will do it without hesitation. I will never delay again, never be indifferent again, because this path of life can never be repeated.

---474---

If you can be humble and tolerant on the road of life, you will have a broad mind and can eliminate all difficulties and resolve all disputes.

---475---

If we want to make friends, we must first do something for others - things that require time, energy, consideration and dedication.

---476---

If we want to make friends, we must first do something for others - things that require time, physical strength, consideration and dedication.

---477---

Lincoln once said: "A person who achieves great things should not argue with others and waste his time arguing with others. Pointless arguments will not only damage your temperament, but also make you lose self-control. You might as well be more humble to others. Instead of competing with a dog for the road, it is better to let the dog go first. If you are bitten by a dog, even if you kill the dog, it will not heal your wound."

---478---

Seward suggested a small change in wording; a few minutes later, he suggested a second change in wording. Lincoln asked Seward why he hadn't made both suggestions at the same time. Then he interrupted the discussion to tell a story: Back home in Indiana, a farmhand told the farmer that a steer had died. A moment later, the farmhand said another steer had died, too. "Why didn't you tell me both were dead?" the farmer asked. "Well," the farmhand replied, "I didn't want to upset you by telling you too many things at once."

---479---

Leave some sparks of friendly appreciation on your daily journey, so that when you pass by next time, you will find the fire of friendship warming you everywhere.

---480---

In Professor Overstead's book "Influencing Human Behavior", there is a passage: "In fact, desires control our actions... Whether in the family, school, business, or politics, the best advice I can give to those who want to persuade others is to first understand the other party's urgent wishes. If you do this, you will be able to succeed. Otherwise, you will accomplish nothing."

---481---

Smile is rest for the tired, hope for the depressed, sunshine for the sad, and the best medicine given by nature to mankind.

---482---

You are the only one who can make yourself happy. Remember, don't regret it. You have to believe that you are unique in this world, so just stay yourself.

---483---

When students find that they can control the audience's attention, receive praise from the teacher and win applause from the class, they will gradually develop a sense of inner power, enhance their own courage and inner achievements, a feeling they have never experienced before. With this feeling, they begin to try things that they never dreamed possible, and find themselves eager to speak in front of the public. These people often become active players in business and other fields.

---484---

Jesus said: Although we cannot treat our enemies in a friendly way, at least we should treat ourselves well. Our mood, body and appearance should not be controlled by the enemy. When our hearts are full of hatred, we give the enemy greater power to overwhelm us and give him the opportunity to control our appetite, blood pressure, sleep and health, and even mood. If the enemy knew that it would bring so much trouble to him, he would be very proud, because hatred can't hurt the other party, but it can send you to hell.

---485---

Successful performance comes from a belief, sticking to the belief, and taking action

---486---

"Few people can resist the compliment that comes from attentive listening." The famous writer Woodford wrote this in his book "Falling in Love with Strangers".

---487---

Don't let the little things upset us, we should despise them. Remember "Life is too short to waste time on the little things."

---488---

Truly wise and great people will never focus only on their own achievements in a certain area. They know how to consider other people's face and respect others.

---489---

You are a new thing in this world and you should be grateful for that and make the best use of what nature has given you.

---490---

Read history and try to expand your vision to a thousand years ago - from the perspective of eternity, you will find how insignificant "your" troubles are.

---491---

People have long realized that since they can't avoid unfair criticism, they can at least do something more important: decide whether to accept it.

---492---

Enthusiasm comes from the heart, it is neither pretentious nor pure acting, it comes from your strong interest in the work and the passion from the bottom of your heart. Enthusiasm refers to a kind of passionate spiritual substance, which comes from the heart and goes deep into the heart... It is a kind of "restrained excitement".

---493---

If the medicine is not available in the pharmacy, the individual has to make his own medicine. If he thinks he can't do it himself, he is wrong.

---494---

It is human nature to forget to be grateful. If we always expect others to be grateful, we are asking for trouble.

---495---

Alexander Pope put it simply: "Teach by subtlety, and let what he does not know be forgotten."

---496---

There is no experience involved in success; I just do my best at my job.

---497---

Arguing, complaining and arguing may bring temporary victory, but you can never win the respect of others through this superficial victory.

Maybe you are always right, maybe you can always refute others, but what's the point. No matter you win or lose, you can't change other people's minds.

---498---

If we are mean and selfish, and don't get anything from others, we are unwilling to share a little happiness with others. If our tolerance is smaller than a sour apple, then we are doomed to fail.

---499---

Almost all worries and sorrows come from people's imagination, not reality.

---500---

Don't judge others, and others will not judge you.

---501---

Pay attention to the seemingly small things.

---502---

There is only one moment, and I only live it once

---503---

See who can first arouse the other's eager desire. Those who can do this will rule the world. Those who can't will end up alone.

---504---

Everyone comes to this world naked, following their own life path and pursuing their inner dreams. Life is fragile and small, but the power of life is also extremely strong, just like a seed, as long as it wants to sprout, it can go through the darkness and tenaciously find the sun. Indifference and indifference to success may make a person's life journey dull, but the inner passion and desire for dreams can also make a person's life colorful.

---505---

99% of the things people worry about never happen, so why should we get upset and worry about things that never happen? Isn't that stupid?

---506---

Where your interests lie, your abilities lie as well.

---507---

Is it silly, superficial, and childish to cheer yourself up every morning? No, it is very important psychologically.

---508---

Being able to do something for others within your ability is not a responsibility but a joy, as the saying goes, "giving roses to others leaves a lingering fragrance on your hands." Thinking more about others can not only increase your own health and happiness, but also make you no longer worry about yourself, and help you make many friends.

---509---

Franklin once said: If you always argue and debate, you may win occasionally, but this victory is empty, because it will greatly reduce your good impression in the eyes of others. So you have to think about it carefully. Do you want the kind of victory in words, or do you want others to have a good impression of you from the bottom of their hearts?

---510---

Successful people also experience failures, but if a person always looks back and only sees failures, he will stagnate. No matter who you are, it is very important to aim forward, shape your own brilliance, and have a good image. People who have failed in speaking can only overcome failure and become eloquent if they get rid of the shadow of past failures and forget their past selves.

---511---

Disraeli said: "Life is too short to worry about the little things."

---512---

Make good use of your talents. In the final analysis, all art is a manifestation of self. You can only sing your own songs and paint your own paintings. Your experiences and environment have inherited and shaped you. Whether good or bad, you just need to manage your own little garden well; whether good or bad, you just need to play your own instrument in the orchestra of life.

---513---

If we have accepted the worst, we have nothing to lose.

---514---

People-oriented. Don't open a shop without laughter.

---515---

Regarding the definition of compliment, I once read this sentence: "Compliments to others are just a euphemism for praising yourself."

Emerson said, "Whatever words you use, what you say is ultimately a reflection of yourself."

---516---

I often remind myself: "This matter is only worth worrying about a little bit, no more."

---517---

We can avoid arguments like this:

⑴ First, listen. Give the other person a chance to fully express his or her opinion and let him or her express his or her meaning completely. At this time, you should listen carefully in order to enhance mutual communication and understanding.

⑵ Find common ground. After listening to the other person's narration, first look for areas where you and he have similar or similar opinions.

⑶ Agree to seriously consider different opinions. You should sincerely admit that the other party's point of view is correct. Therefore, it is a smarter approach to agree to consider his opinion.

⑷ Thank those who hold different opinions for their concern. Different opinions arise because we care about the same thing. Be willing to accept different opinions, and perhaps the other party will become your friend.

⑸ Don’t rush into action, give both parties time. Stop appropriately and think more carefully about the existing problems before holding the talks.

⑹Ask yourself: If I remain silent, will the anger disappear? Is this problem an opportunity for me?

---518---

Just smile at unfair criticism.

---519---

Evildoers blame everyone and never repent.

---520---

Even if you run away, you must bear the consequences of running away. People with mature minds will bravely face and accept difficulties and find ways to take action to solve them. They will not beg for mercy, despair, or find excuses to escape. Immature people will regard their differences as defects and obstacles, and then expect to be treated specially, which is useless.

---521---

Some people always make this mistake: they always tell their children, partners or employees that he (she) is extremely stupid in a certain thing, or has no talent in a certain aspect, and what he (she) does is completely wrong, etc. This behavior is wrong, because doing so will not only make him (her) lose his (her) ambition and motivation, but also make him (her) fall into disappointment.

---522---

You will never get satisfactory results by fighting, but you will get much more than expected by giving in.

---523---

Rest often and follow your heart's desire - rest before you feel tired, and you will have at least an extra hour each day of full energy.

---524---

Judge Joseph Shabashi of Chicago, who has arbitrated more than 40,000 unhappy marriages, said: "The reason why marriages are unhappy is often because of some small things that eventually lead to the breakdown of feelings."

---525---

The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most.

The shortcut to a person's heart is to talk to him about what he values ​​most.

---526---

If you want to collect honey, don't kick over the beehive.

---527---

Caring about the self-esteem of others is precisely the most beautiful pleasure in life, which will always remain in people's hearts.

---528---

Instead of waiting for your opponent to attack you, it is better to correct your weaknesses yourself.

---529---

Do not worry about tomorrow, because tomorrow will have its own worries. It is enough to deal with each day’s troubles.

---530---

Courage is the measure of the soul

---531---

Follow Heart

From the heart

coward

---532---

Thomas Carlyle said: "A great man shows his greatness by the way he treats his lesser men."

---533---

If a person can confidently move towards his ideal direction and make up his mind to live the life he wants, he will surely achieve unexpected success.

---534---

If you are wrong, you must be brave enough to admit your mistakes first, so that others may be as tolerant and generous as you are, and think that he may be wrong. This is like punching someone, if you want to hit someone again, you must first retract the fist you have extended.

---535---

Many times, the truth is not in the hands of most people, so don't be afraid of being different or being treated as a fool by others. As long as you believe in your own ideas and are not influenced by the opinions of others, you can walk on the road to success through persistence at home.

---536---

Most of us have far more courage than we ever dreamed we possessed.

Most of us have far more courage than we ever dream of.

---537---

Plato once said: "The biggest mistake doctors make is that they only treat physical diseases but ignore mental diseases. In fact, the spirit and the body are one, how can they be separated!"

---538---

Once you have a strong belief, you should take action.

Only actions count

---539---

You can relax at any time and any place, just don't force yourself to relax. Relaxation means eliminating all tension and strength, and only thinking about comfort and relaxation. At the beginning, think about how to relax the muscles of your eyes and face, and keep saying: "Relax... relax... relax, and relax again." Make yourself feel completely free of tension, from the muscles of your face to all parts of your body, like a child.

---540---

(1) Give yourself time to be alone every day so that you can get to know yourself better;

(2) Breaking free from the shackles of habit;

(3) Pursue it with passion and excitement.

The process of continuous self-discovery and self-exploration is also the process of spiritual maturity. Unless we understand ourselves first, it is difficult for us to understand others. According to Socrates, "knowing yourself" is the beginning of wisdom.

---541---

Whenever I start a new business, I always leave myself a way out. Military experts say that the first priority in combat is to keep the supply lines open. I think this principle also applies to the "battle" of life.

---542---

It is foolish to blame others because it is already very difficult to overcome one's own shortcomings.

---543---

When you lose your passion, you lose your soul

---544---

Respect other people's opinions and never accuse them of being wrong.

---545---

Letting others save face is a very important issue. However, this issue is often overlooked by us. We often like to put on airs, pick on others, criticize and blame others in front of others, but fail to put ourselves in others' shoes. If we do this, it is inevitable that we will hurt others.

---546---

French writer Tona de Saint-Sauvignon once said: "I have no right to do anything that would hurt someone's self-esteem. Hurting someone's self-esteem is a crime."

---547---

Passion for work is an inherent quality that everyone who desires success must possess.

---548---

Successful people are all bold and courageous. The word "fear" does not exist in their dictionary. They are confident that they can do everything and they think they are very valuable.

---549---

Happiness does not depend on any external conditions, but is determined by our mentality.

---550---

5 ways to get rid of misfortune, I hope everyone can remember it.

(1) Accept the inevitable and let time heal the pain;

(2) taking action to resist adversity;

(3) Focus on helping others;

(4) Make full use of your life while you are still alive.

(5) Count the blessings we have.

---551---

Criticism is useless, but it will increase people's resistance, and the criticized people will always try their best to defend themselves. Criticism itself is also dangerous because it will hurt a person's self-esteem and face, and will cause resentment from others.

---552---

Keep a lid on your tongue. Everyone has frustrating moments, and if we can't say something nice to others, we'd better not say anything at all.

---553---

Things to pay attention to or avoid during a speech:

  1. Be well prepared and don't use a script.

  2. First, try giving a trial lecture among people you know to observe their reactions.

  3. The content of the speech should be specific and clear.

  4. Focus on the key points and go into depth, and avoid introducing too many concepts.

  5. Talk about the problem, and don’t go back to it after you’re done.

  6. When giving a speech, it is best to use "we" instead of "you" to avoid giving people the feeling of preaching.

  7. If you want to be loved by the audience, it is best to maintain a modest and cautious attitude. Don't let the audience feel that the speaker thinks he is superior to others in intelligence or social status. When giving a speech, it is like putting yourself in a window display. Every aspect of your human nature is exposed. As long as you are a little boastful or showy, you are doomed to fail.

  8. Do not use professional terms as most of the audience will not understand them. If you do use them, explain them in detail.

---554---

The Art of Communicating with Your Boss

  • Take the initiative to communicate with leaders

  • Learn to make suggestions

  • Neither humble nor overbearing attitude

  • Treat criticism and correction correctly

  • Correct expression, short words, and clear expression of the main idea

  • Understand the degree of request

  • Never speak ill of other colleagues in front of your boss

---555---

"People who think only of themselves are hopeless and uneducated, no matter how educated they may be."

---556---

Don't talk about taboo topics in the workplace

  • Family property issues, vanity and comparison

  • Discussing salary issues

  • Comparison between companies

  • Don’t be too outspoken, such as when your abilities are underestimated or when you speak ill of others.

  • Talk about personal issues and life problems

---557---

The magic formula to banish depression:

a. Prepare for the worst

b. Bravely accept the worst fact

c. Calm down and find a way to save the situation

---558---

Give yourself some alone time every day, strive to break free from the shackles of bad habits, and experience the excitement and enthusiasm from the heart.

---559---

Treat others the way you want others to treat you.

---560---

Famous Chinese author Lin Yutang made the same point in his popular book The Art of Living when he said, “Mental peace comes from being able to accept difficult situations. They free the mind.”

---561---

Willy Carey's universal formula (When facing anxiety, we can adjust our mental state in three steps.)

⑴ You must clearly understand what the worst possible situation is?

⑵Therefore be prepared to meet it.

⑶Think calmly and find solutions to the problem.

---562---

Real reading awakens those who are sleepy and helps those who have not yet decided on a goal to choose an appropriate goal. Proper books guide people on the right path and prevent them from going astray.

---563---

One morning, they went to the laboratory classroom for class. There was a bottle of milk on the teacher's desk. When all the students sat down and looked at the milk, they didn't know what it had to do with the hygiene class. Suddenly, the teacher stood up, swept the bottle into the sink, and said loudly: "Don't cry over spilled milk."

---564---

Accepting the established facts is the first step to overcoming any misfortunes that follow. Accepting the worst case scenario will give you a strong psychological strength to face reality. The biggest disadvantage of worry is that it destroys our ability to concentrate. Once worry arises, our thoughts will wander around and we will lose the ability to make rational judgments.

---565---

Live in today’s grid.

---566---

between.

  1. When you have nothing left to lose, that's when you start to gain.

  2. Add learning, subtract pride, multiply opportunities, and divide laziness.

  3. The ignorance of childhood is cute, the ignorance of youth is ridiculous, the ignorance of youth is pitiful, the ignorance of middle age is lamentable, and the ignorance of old age is sad.

  4. People allow a stranger to rise, but cannot tolerate the rise of someone close to them. Because there are comparisons and interests between people at the same level,

The conflict is with Yu Dan's summary of human nature, but there is no such topic with Stranger.

  1. When a woman likes a man, she wants to hear lies; when a woman hates a man, she wants to hear the truth.

  2. If you lend too much money to someone, you will turn that person into a bad person.

  3. Modern marriage is a product of emotion, but also a crystallization of competition.

  4. Enemies become comrades mostly for survival, and comrades become enemies mostly for

---567---

If you have a lemon, squeeze some lemonade

---568---

About 90% of the things that life gives us are right, and only 10% are wrong. If we want to be happy, all we should do is to focus on the 90% and ignore the 10% that are wrong.

---569---

You should be thankful that you are unique in the world and should bring out your gifts. Experience, environment and heredity have shaped you. Whether it is good or bad, you have to cultivate your own garden; whether it is good or bad, you have to play the strings of life.

---570---

If you have anxiety, apply Willy Carey's universal formula and do these three things:

(1) Ask yourself: “What is the worst that could happen?”

(2) If you have to, be prepared for it.

(3) Calmly find ways to improve the worst situation.

---571---

Understanding can arouse sympathy, make people tolerant, and inspire people's kindness. "Understanding is tolerance."

---572---

Correct thinking can inspire creativity. So many things come from ideals and desires. All your sincere prayers will be fully fulfilled. Whatever we want to achieve, as long as we nurture this idea in our hearts, we will have such a harvest!

---573---

If we do something exciting and fun then we won't get bored.

---574---

Remember, the person you are talking to doesn't really care about you and your problems. His toothache is more upsetting to him than a few dozen aftershocks in Africa. So next time before you open your mouth, think about how the other person is feeling.

---575---

“Everyone is someone you can learn from. Whether you know them or not, everyone has something worth emulating. The most important thing is that you have to study their lives, actively learn from their experiences, and flexibly apply them in your own life; otherwise, it is easy to take a detour, or even run into a wall or fall.”

---576---

As long as you are not anxious, why do you have to sleep well?

---577---

The most effective way to influence others is to always care about their thoughts and try every means to meet their needs! When dealing with people, you should not consider what you want, but what others need!

---578---

Tips for communicating with colleagues

  • Praise your colleagues more and criticize them less

  • Correct your mindset and attitude

  • Learn to adjust the atmosphere and create humor appropriately

  • Listen more, talk less

  • Learn to say no tactfully

  • Pay attention to the taboos in conversation and don't open up to others casually

---579---

Only when you become mentally strong can you overcome external difficulties. Only a woman with a strong heart can be truly fearless.

---580---

What determines whether you are happy or unhappy is not

What do you have, or who you are, or where you are

It's not about what you are doing, but how you

think.

---581---

He was Sir William Osler. The 24 words he saw in the spring of 1871 helped him live a carefree life. These 24 words were: "The most important thing is not to look at what is vague in the distance, but to do what is clear at hand." They were written by Thomas Carlyle.

---582---

You can relax at any time and in any place, but don't spend any effort to relax yourself. Relaxation means eliminating all tension and strength, and only thinking about comfort and relaxation. At the beginning, think about how to relax your eye muscles and facial muscles, and keep saying: "Relax... relax... relax, and relax again!" You should feel your physical strength from the facial muscles to the center of your body. Make yourself like a child, without any feeling of tension.

---583---

The best way to get into someone's heart is to talk to him about what he is most interested in.

---584---

If you have a worry problem, apply Willis Carell's amazing formula and do these three things: 1. Ask yourself: What is the worst that could happen? 2. Be prepared to accept it if you must. 3. Then think calmly and come up with ways to improve the worst-case scenario.

---585---

To cross the bridge, you must first go to the bridge side

---586---

  1. Related to the speaker’s personal experience (growth, difficulties in struggle, hobbies, expertise, unusual experiences)

  2. Choose something you are familiar with (the more you know about something, the more enthusiastic you will be), and arrange the content in an orderly manner. I think that you need to know more about good speech topics in order to accumulate knowledge and make a breakthrough.

  3. The content of the speech must be related to the audience themselves, their interests, and their problems. Only in this way can you win the audience's attention. The audience's reaction determines the success or failure of the speech.

  4. You can give a speech on the same topic many times, but you won't give the same speech twice. The audience has different knowledge levels and backgrounds, so you must make the audience feel that your speech is targeted and alive, and is specially prepared for them. Including many things that locals often talk about and things they are familiar with in the speech will have a better effect.

---587---

When dealing with others, we must remember that the people we interact with are not those who live purely according to reason or logic, but those who are full of emotions, prejudice, arrogance and vanity.

---588---

Please try to change "but" to "and"

---589---

A perfectionist is also a human being, so he will encounter failures like everyone else, but he cannot tolerate himself and overcome failures, and the result is that he can only hate himself.

---590---

(1) Regardless of any social occasion, humor will help you open the door to communication with others. (2) Cultivate an optimistic attitude towards life and a strong will, and motivate yourself with a brave and tenacious spirit. (3) Actively strengthen targeted psychological training to effectively overcome negative emotions such as tension and anxiety, improve psychological adaptability and balance, enhance confidence and courage, and overcome fear with a fearless spirit. (4) The saying "knowledge is the best medicine to cure fear" makes sense. If you are fully prepared for various possible changes, you will improve your psychological tolerance and make it difficult for fear to invade. (5) Through learning, improve your ability to understand things, expand your cognitive horizons, and correctly determine the source of fear.

---591---

Although hope has no color, it can make your life brilliant; although hope has no shape, it can give you magical power. If there is hope in life, dreams will also shine. Only when the fire of hope is not extinguished can we keep striving, overcome hardships and realize our ideals.

---592---

Don't blame or complain

---593---

What does a man want a woman to do for him? Of course, it is comfort, not excitement, but comfort in the ordinary sense.

  • Maintain a good temper

  • Be a considerate woman

  • Be a woman who is good at listening

  • Cooperate with your husband's actions

---594---

The art of communicating with subordinates

  • Give clear and unambiguous instructions

  • Have heart-to-heart talks with subordinates at any time

  • Effectively criticize subordinates

---595---

Don't criticize, blame or complain about anyone. (The first taboo in dealing with people)

Please don't be stingy with genuine, unpretentious compliments. (This kind of speech is very valuable)

Appeal to the other person's inner needs.

---596---

Worrying can make our expressions stiff, our hair fall out, our skin dull, and we age rapidly and look sad.

---597---

Be sincere in commending, and generous in praising (A gentleman does not seek to be a spy, and does not use himself to gain favor.)

---598---

Please give me peace.

To bear the things I cannot change;

Please give me courage.

To change what I can.

Please give me wisdom,

To judge the difference between the two.

---599---

Interpersonal relationships are the communication between people, and are a modern way of expressing the biblical golden rule of "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."

---600---

William Shakespeare (William Shakespeare. Chinese society often respectfully calls him Sha Weng. Lu Xun called Shakespeare "Shakespeare" in "On the Power of Poetry" in the late Qing Dynasty and early Ming Dynasty. He is the most outstanding dramatist in the history of British literature, the most important and greatest writer in the European Renaissance, and one of the most outstanding writers in the world.) once said: "There is no such thing as good or bad in the world. Thoughts make it so."

---601---

George Bernard Shaw said it well when he said, "The secret of being unhappy is to have free time to think about whether you are happy or not." So don't think about it. Keep yourself busy and your blood will start to circulate and your mind will start to sharpen - keep yourself busy. It is the cheapest medicine in the world and the best one.

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Happiness is a feeling, an experience of triumph over adversity, a triumph over oneself, an experience of turning lemons into lemonade.

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Salute to the dawn. Look at today! Because it is life, life in life. In its short time, it stores all your changes and realities: the blessing of growth, the glory of action, the splendor of achievement. Because yesterday is just a dream, and tomorrow is just an illusion, but living well in today can make every yesterday a happy dream, and every tomorrow a hope. So, seize this day well, this is your salute to the dawn.

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Of course, we should not just accept all the misfortunes, that is just fatalism. As long as there is a glimmer of hope, we should fight to the end! But when we find that the situation is irreversible, we should not hesitate to resist, but accept it calmly.

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If there is a secret to success, it may be understanding the other person's position and being able to take into account both your own interests and theirs.

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What you think you are is not who you really are. Actions and feelings go hand in hand. Controlling actions with your will will indirectly control feelings. Transform fear into courage to overcome any obstacle.

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A gentle, noble disposition is undoubtedly indispensable to the highest form of beauty, and it can make the most ordinary face shine. If you always have beautiful thoughts and good wishes in your mind, then wherever you go, you will leave a beautiful and harmonious impression on people, and no one will notice how ordinary your appearance is or what defects you have.

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You should be grateful that you are unique in the world and should make use of your talents.

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Don’t let yourself get upset over little things that should be put aside and forgotten, and remember: “Life is too short to sweat the small stuff.”

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There is a saying that "time is money in the world", so thieves who steal other people's time should of course be punished, and even those happy good people should still avoid them like a taboo disease.

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If we know that we are likely to be punished, why don't we quickly and bravely admit our mistakes to the other party? Wouldn't it be much better than hearing criticism from others? If the other party wants to blame you, you have already said it for him, and he is embarrassed to continue to scold you, then you have a 99% chance of gaining his understanding.

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Being able to call someone's name familiarly is an effective and subtle compliment.

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Hurting others not only fails to change them, but is also unnecessary.

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When you feel that you have a tendency to be negative or abnormal in your conversation, you might as well be alert and immediately add positive and gentle tones and content. These contents can greatly help you to cheer up and control your nervousness.

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Some people like to say that goals are difficult to achieve, that is due to their weak will.

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If you don't look at the road under your feet, you will have more chances of falling.

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When you worry about things that are past, you are only sawing sawdust.

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Burning enthusiasm, coupled with practical knowledge and perseverance, are the qualities that most often lead to success.

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Whether you are happy or unhappy has nothing to do with what you have, who you are, where you are, or what you are doing. It only has to do with what you are thinking.

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After Clowrey was arrested, Police Chief Maloney said: "He is the most dangerous criminal in New York's history. He kills without blinking an eye... He will definitely be sentenced to death!" But how did Clowrey see himself? When the police surrounded him, he wrote an open letter, claiming: "There is a tired heart under my clothes, it is a kind heart that does not want to hurt anyone." Maybe his wound was bleeding when he wrote the letter, and there were traces of his blood on the letter paper!

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Please do not forget that we are not dealing with absolutely rational animals, but with animals full of mood swings, prejudices, conceit and vanity.

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Magic formula for a short (2 minute) speech:

  1. Start by describing the details of the example to vividly illustrate the idea you want to convey to your audience.

  2. Express your views and requirements in detail and clearly (be concise, easy to understand and implement).

  3. State the reason and emphasize what the audience will gain if they do what you say (be specific and make only one request). The examples you give at the beginning may take up more than 3/4 of the time, and the rest of the time is used to express expectations. At this point, there is no need to go into details, just make a straightforward statement.

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You might think that this is not common among criminals. If you think so, listen to the following:

"I have dedicated the best years of my life to others, I helped them to be happy and joyful, but what I got was the humiliation of being arrested." This was said by Al Capp, the number one public enemy in the United States and a gangster who once ran rampant in the Chicago area. He did not think that he was cruel, on the contrary, he felt that he was a good person who was beneficial to others, a good person who was not praised and misunderstood by others.

That heinous criminal in New York, Sulz, thought so too before he was knocked down. He even claimed in an interview with a journalist that he was a man who was good to the people.

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Please don't be stingy with your sincere and unpretentious praise.

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Interview conversation skills

  • A decent appearance: clothing, makeup, punctuality, polite temperament, enthusiasm, confidence, reserve, and neither humble nor overbearing attitude.

  • Appropriate language expression: clear articulation, fluent speech, appropriate volume, tone and speed, appropriate subtlety and humor.

  • Express yourself calmly: Based on your resume, express your strengths and abilities, be realistic, and let the other party think you are the right candidate.

  • Handle questions properly: We need to make clear the purpose of the interview questions. "Why are you applying for this position?" Usually the interviewer wants to know your career goals and your familiarity with the company. "What do you think are your shortcomings?" Usually they want to understand your integrity and whether you are suitable for the position. You can talk about your shortcomings, and the other side of the shortcomings, the advantages it brings. "What would you do when you have a conflict of opinion with your boss?" Usually they want to test your communication skills and self-identity. Regarding salary, you can give a reasonable floating range. In addition,

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Shortly before the raid, Colore and his girlfriend were driving on a Long Island highway, flirting when a police officer approached and said, "Show me your driver's license, please."

Without saying anything, Kolore pulled out his pistol and fired several shots at the policeman. After the policeman fell to the ground and died, Kolore jumped out of the car, picked up the policeman's gun and fired several more shots at his body. But such a cruel man actually said: "There is a tired heart under my clothes, it is kind and does not want to hurt anyone's heart."

When Colore was sentenced to death by electric chair, did he confess his crime when he was led to the execution room? No, he said: "Is this what I get for defending myself?"

From this story we can see that Kolore did not think he was wrong, nor did he feel any remorse.

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Why waste tears? We make mistakes and do ridiculous things, but so what? Who doesn't make mistakes? Even Napoleon lost one-third of his key battles. Maybe our winning rate is better than Napoleon's. Who can say for sure?

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A happy marriage belongs only to those who are mature in mind, understand themselves, are good at building good relationships with others, and are responsible and consider the happiness of others in everything they do.

  • Keep thanking and praising her

  • Be generous and considerate to your wife

  • Always maintain your image

  • Understand her dedication

  • A wife who always supports you

  • Know how to share with your significant other

  • Always express your love to your wife

  • Don't torture your wife with silence

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Always walk on a sunny road. Let the warmth and power of the sun enter your whole body. The light shines on your face, making it glow and reflect to others.

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If you don't succeed at something you really want to do, don't give up and accept failure immediately, try something else

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